Monday, 11 May 2015

#MicroblogMondays: Recap of That Day

I felt quite emotional yesterday for a number of reasons:
  • I got news on Friday that was predictable but still disappointing.
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  • I spoke to my mother, and was just reminded how every day is a struggle with this diagnosis.
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  • I was annoyed that my husband doesn't seem to realise that Mother's Day might upset me, or that when he does (which I suspect is the case), even after all these years, he thinks that silence is the best policy because mentioning it might upset me.
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  • I felt that not a single person in my life thinks of me on this day (even though I know it's not true, as my EPT and blogging friends surely do, as I think of them).
But then I visited Fb - rashly, as you'd think I'd have learned by now <rolling eyes> - and saw a number of Fb posts that reminded me that this day is difficult for many people, men and women, and knew that at least one of those friends was hurting much more deeply than I was.

The wife of a cousin, who I know struggled with infertility, posted that she knew how lucky she was to have her (adopted) daughter, and I knew what she meant behind those words.

And another friend said Happy Mother's Day to "... all people doing the loving and demanding job of nurturing other beings" which allowed me to smile, and shake those negative feelings.






21 comments:

  1. No words. Just hugs. And thanks to having you in my life, my amazing friend.

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  2. I was and am thinking of you! It's a hard day, no matter how you slice it. It makes a difference when you know others are thinking of you and how it's so hard, because then it's harder to feel forgotten AND left out. Big hugs to you.

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  3. My DH also thinks that silence is the best policy in situations like this...
    hugs.

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    1. That must be why the two of them seemed to like each other!

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  4. Hugs for you. Not an easy day. I felt like crawling into a hole. But, I like what your one friend posted that seems very inclusive of how they shared well wishes on Mother's Day. And now it is a new day.

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  5. So pleasantly surprised that Fb helped shake negative feelings for a change! it seemed to me it was a place where many people got hurt by the (fake) shiny happiness others were posting, so i stayed away. Good to hear you survived.

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  6. I think the silence is a y chromosome thing! I'm sorry it was a rough day for you. Another offering of big hugs!

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  7. So glad that for once facebook actually brought a feeling of support and recognition. I like that sentiment too.

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  8. I agree with BentNotBroken, men are just silent in general. Glad we all survived another year.

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  9. I always find the lead-up to the actual day is probably the worst part, and this past weekend was no different. But I'm glad it's over!

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    1. Yes, I find that's usually the case. I think that's why this year it surprised me that the reverse happened.

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  10. I had a FB/twitter/blog friend who declared it the more inclusive Women Who Kick Ass and Impact the Lives of Children and Others in a Positive Way Day, and it was nice.

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  11. My friend acknowledged all the women with empty arms. It was amazing.

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  12. My thoughts were with you and amazing women just like you this past Sunday.

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  13. You are braver than I am to go on Facebook. I avoided it through the weekend. It was just too much; too many updates about Mother's Day all coming at once.

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  14. I liked this, "... all people doing the loving and demanding job of nurturing other beings". That sounds about right!

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  15. It does seem to me that each year, the general approach to This Day is more inclusive and empathetic, so perhaps gains are being made in a macro sense.

    I'm sorry to hear about your disappointing news.

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  16. Sigh. Yeah. It's a such a weird/dumb day that upsets as many people I think as it makes happy. I have friends who have lost their moms already and are sad; infertile friends who are sad; ttc friends who are struggling who are sad.

    I ended up staying off of Facebook..... which was hard but I think definitely made the day better!

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  17. ((((Late HUGS)))) I'm glad you had some lovely posts on FB. This year I was saved from M Day because I was on an impromptu trip.

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