Monday, 1 January 2018

It's not all about me

When we think about the impact we might have on others' lives, it's never the things we think about. For example, one of my adult nieces recently posted on Fb about a favourite old movie, tagged her sisters, and remembered that it was a movie I had given them. One of her sisters has separately talked about some of the things we had brought them from our overseas travels, none of which I can remember.

One of my 17-year-old nieces commented that on her last trip to New Zealand, she remembered the most amazing (her words) dessert I'd made them, with chocolate trees (it was a chocolate mousse, with chocolate palm trees as decoration). To her it was important, yet until now, I have always remembered that mousse as an embarrassing failure, as it was the one time I couldn't get the egg whites properly mixed in, leaving little flecks of white through it.

We can't control how others will remember us, and they remember things we have often forgotten. So it just reminds me to be me, and not to try too hard. Because they'll remember the funny things, the small things, the things that mattered to them, not the things that mattered to me.

9 comments:

  1. I agree, we never truly know what events or moments will impact those around us or even ourselves. It’s something I’ve been thinking about more and more.

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  2. I love this so much. How sweet the things that are remembered, and how funny that they aren't the things you'd think. It reminds me of this amazing TED talk called "lollipop moments" -- I'll link here. Happy New Year! You've been in 2018 for a while now I think... :)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVCBrkrFrBE

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  3. Yes, I agree.

    Wishing you and your husband all the best in 2018!

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  4. What a beautiful story, and how true it is, too! I just love how your nieces remember everything you gave them while you forgot about some of it. It does encourage me to see my nieces and nephews more and keep nurturing the relationship with my godchildren.

    Happy New Year to you, dear Mali.

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  5. A very good reminder. And what is that saying? That people will never remember what you say or do. They'll remember how you made them feel.

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  6. This is so true! I always think of this with my nephews as they grow...I spent weeks planning a birthday trip this spring to a local amusement park and it all seemed to pass so fast. My nephew STILL talks about it 6 months later, but do you know what he finds most memorable? That he saw the Camel Pee. Not the 6 hours we spent in 30 degree heat traipsing around an overcrowded amusement park, with backpacks full of everything we could need and more (that I'd diligently researched) and all the rides I had carefully selected for him. He only remembers that he saw a Camel pee (and they pee A LOT). Lesson learned!! Plan less, and enjoy more!

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  7. This is so true!! I'm always amazed at what's stuck in our nephews' memories, and it's not always what you think it's going to be. (Frankly, I'm just glad that something's stuck at all, lol.)

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