tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3123001402735599642..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Will you be my friend?Malihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-6814840660579896342015-11-09T18:23:03.117+13:002015-11-09T18:23:03.117+13:00I love the concept or reclaiming friendship.
It i...I love the concept or reclaiming friendship. <br />It is lovely to read one of your older posts... I missed this one then.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-1029121682536984922012-03-18T08:14:43.791+13:002012-03-18T08:14:43.791+13:00Thank you for writing this. This gives me hope tha...Thank you for writing this. This gives me hope that there will be a time I can establish friendships again.ApronStringsEmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03563200889320214974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-55066086652765346582012-03-07T17:44:39.576+13:002012-03-07T17:44:39.576+13:00I'm so happy you read here too, IB!I'm so happy you read here too, IB!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-68369909444213913492012-03-07T17:44:17.807+13:002012-03-07T17:44:17.807+13:00Well, I'm definitely full-bodied and well-roun...Well, I'm definitely full-bodied and well-rounded!!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64310451791445251942012-03-07T16:39:48.603+13:002012-03-07T16:39:48.603+13:00I'm with you, Mali. I'm interested in frie...I'm with you, Mali. I'm interested in friendships that are full-bodied, well-rounded -- just like my wine ;-) ... <br />Barossa and Margaret Valley -- count me in!Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-79735217328617412822012-03-07T08:01:01.022+13:002012-03-07T08:01:01.022+13:00I'm so happy that you write here and that I re...I'm so happy that you write here and that I read here.Indigo Buntinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11387698096732697805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-34590295149047833582012-03-06T03:41:58.349+13:002012-03-06T03:41:58.349+13:00I've recently left my 40s and find the friends...I've recently left my 40s and find the friendship thing a whole lot easier now. Although many of my friends have kids, they are also older, putting the parents back, sort of, in my bracket. Their lives are not revolving around their children. It's a nice benefit of aging. Now if only I can find some more of those benefits!Kate Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03085332596007868197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-7786439221028545012012-03-03T11:40:17.816+13:002012-03-03T11:40:17.816+13:00Thank you for this lovely response post. I have le...Thank you for this lovely response post. I have learned from you post and the comments on mine, that I think friendships can be effected by children, but not always. That people with children want friends who don't have children for some much needed adult time and talk. And that it can be easy to fit into the lives of those with children. Also, I am seeing that I will probably find childfree friends pretty organically. <br /><br />Really appreciate your great thoughts and insight!Nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35607329610131366102012-03-02T10:45:35.216+13:002012-03-02T10:45:35.216+13:00"So I’m pleased to report that this is a time..."So I’m pleased to report that this is a time when I am reclaiming my friendships." It is so lovely to reading something positive like this. Thank you for an uplifting post on an issue that the blogosphere makes clear is on lots of our minds.oliviahttp://readinginthebath.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-29689957466365417362012-03-01T16:21:24.443+13:002012-03-01T16:21:24.443+13:00It is hard. Very hard. And that's what I'...It is hard. Very hard. And that's what I'm about to post about.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-22461528604884807962012-03-01T16:20:51.486+13:002012-03-01T16:20:51.486+13:00Amel, I loved this. "Now that we've surr...Amel, I loved this. "Now that we've surrendered, I feel safe from that fear." What a wonderful insight, and reaction, to our situation. Getting to that degree of freedom and relaxation has taken me much longer than you. Bravo!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-76272114335330427162012-03-01T06:23:24.045+13:002012-03-01T06:23:24.045+13:00What a great post!!
I have found that some of the ...What a great post!!<br />I have found that some of the friends that wondered have come back...but, it is up to me to let go of past feelings of being abondoned and akward, and simply move forward into the friendship again. I must admit, it is hard.The Barrenesshttp://www.the-barreness.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-576894000302115822012-02-29T23:34:37.738+13:002012-02-29T23:34:37.738+13:00Interesting read. I'm in my early 30s fast app...Interesting read. I'm in my early 30s fast approaching mid 30s and the only reprieve for me is that I live faraway from "the breeders" (many of my Indo friends and ex-school friends are now having their second or third child - some are just starting to have their first child while some are still single). <br /><br />Among my closest friends, only one is single and I can tell that she can relate to some of my IF losses, though she'd rather not talk about it (she did mention it once, though). The rest are married, though some haven't tried having kids yet (but I suspect they will in the future). Some have one kid or kids already and maybe they will have another one later. In my TTC days, I used to be so scared about what I'd feel if one of them gets pregnant - now that we've surrendered, I feel "safe" from that fear. <br /><br />Here in Finland, I hang out with people who've got kids or older kids (empty nesters), so my life isn't surrounded with little kids. Because of this and because of the fact that I have more blogger friends than real life friends here with kids, I have an arms-length experience with people with kids. I don't know what's gonna happen in the future, though...I mean about friendship. I suspect it's gonna still be this way (knowing me): many more blogger and long-distance online friends than real-life friends ha ha....Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-57333442872745673832012-02-29T19:07:39.697+13:002012-02-29T19:07:39.697+13:00Thank you for writing this. I really appreciate he...Thank you for writing this. I really appreciate hearing about this issue from your perspective. As one of the few people in my small circle of friends that has a child, I've been very careful not to thrust my motherhood on to my friends. I rarely bring up my daughter if someone doesn't ask about her first. And it's not that I wish I could talk about her, usually I'm THRILLED to talk about something, ANYTHING, else. I love to discuss current events or just hear what my friends are doing. I feel like there are other parts of me that are dying to get out.<br /><br />But then I read all these articles and posts about how moms can only talk about their kids and ditch there non-mom friends and I wonder if maybe I'm experiencing my conversations with my friends differently than they happen. Do I only talk about my daughter?! God I hope not. <br /><br />Reading your post gives me hope that there are moms who can celebrate other parts of their lives. It gives me hope that I might be one of those women. I hope I am. <br /><br />I'm so glad you have kept so many of your friends. The idea that women would be separated by whether or not they have kids makes me incredibly sad. I'm so glad to hear that it doesn't happen to everyone.<br /><br />Thanks again for sharing this.Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.com