tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3351591410137090067..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Valuing ourselvesMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-86685129109928372472015-11-06T15:20:38.363+13:002015-11-06T15:20:38.363+13:00Beautifully put. Though, as you say, easier said ...Beautifully put. Though, as you say, easier said than done. And sometimes we need one first person to tell us, at the right time, in the right way, before we can come to terms with/accept/internalize that truth ourselves.Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-88236694886902256712015-11-05T16:06:58.523+13:002015-11-05T16:06:58.523+13:00Insightful. Insightful. Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-44015493120563169692015-11-04T15:30:15.370+13:002015-11-04T15:30:15.370+13:00That's such an interesting perspective. I thin...That's such an interesting perspective. I think you're right - if you've always been on the fringes, and you're comfortable in your identity, having grown up with that, it probably feels different to those who expected, by becoming a parent for example, to move to the centre, and yet find themselves forced to the fringes. The shock of privilege being taken away. Pretty horrible though that any of us have to live on the fringes, feel isolated and ignored!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-50960154042443149172015-11-04T09:18:33.702+13:002015-11-04T09:18:33.702+13:00I think I have had the opposite experience, seeing...I think I have had the opposite experience, seeing the benefit of being ignored because I don't fit into the majority culture, but I think that my mind set may come from not being part of the majority culture in the first place. If you've always been on the fringes, you don't miss being in the middle. And when you get in the middle due to lining up with a certain experience, you don't see the middle quite in the same way as someone who is accustomed to being in the middle.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-69516881994032770642015-11-03T16:18:32.942+13:002015-11-03T16:18:32.942+13:00I love this graphic.
I do think we can value/love...I love this graphic.<br /><br />I do think we can value/love others only to the degree that we value/love ourselves -- warts and all. <br /><br />I think you've got the key to world peace here, Mali!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-36287755642170903792015-11-03T14:59:04.844+13:002015-11-03T14:59:04.844+13:00I love this extension of your previous post. Self-...I love this extension of your previous post. Self-value is important, but hard. And like you said, when the greater society around you is so aggressively not valuing you, you have to be so much more vehement in valuing yourself. I love the idea of self-valuing as a part of the healing process. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-74513073934469708892015-11-03T10:59:34.398+13:002015-11-03T10:59:34.398+13:00You're right. Though I think valuing yourself ...You're right. Though I think valuing yourself allows you to be humble, kind, compassionate, because there's no need to prove ourselves. So maybe it's all in the way we show our self-value/self-love?<br /><br />And even though you don't need outside validation, your life is truly valuable - not just to yourself, but to others. It's valuable to me, for one.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-59011201104178005932015-11-03T07:17:07.190+13:002015-11-03T07:17:07.190+13:00This theme of loving thyself is one I've certa...This theme of loving thyself is one I've certainly struggled with. Despite what is preached, though, there's also an element of shame associated with actually loving yourself. I know too many examples of people knocking others down who they perceive as "uppidded" when they are practicing this. That actually valuing yourself is somehow in direct opposition to humility.<br /><br />Ironically enough, it was only in the depths of infertility that I began learning to value myself. It was actually that or succumbing to the darkness that filled my heart and demanded that I cease living. After all, I learned that in order to define my value, I first had to believe it. There's still many days I struggle with this, but at least I now believe that my life is a valuable one.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com