tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post484208729861446949..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Confirmation bias and childlessnessMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-57949649339090689382017-08-17T05:00:29.980+12:002017-08-17T05:00:29.980+12:00"Long-term, there is a danger that a focus on..."Long-term, there is a danger that a focus only on the No Kidding experience might stop us developing a wider perspective that could help us heal." I love this examination of perspective, of the dangers of isolating yourself in your own experience from many ends of the spectrum. Thoughtful post, I love it. I know I was afraid to explore more No Kidding blogs when I was in the thick of things, but it actually did exactly what you wrote when I opened myself up to people who had a different ending to their journey -- it helped me to see hope in an alternate reality that isn't as celebrated but should be. It helped me to see light at the end of a dark, dark tunnel and to accept that maybe this quest was costing more than I had to give, and that resolving childfree could be a promising, fulfilling new life. I thank you so much for providing these perspectives and helping people on many paths to see the value of a diverse community. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-61553882591021856862017-08-08T00:41:07.025+12:002017-08-08T00:41:07.025+12:00Interesting piece. I've noticed a lot of peopl...Interesting piece. I've noticed a lot of people going through infertility chose to avoid friends who are pregnant or have kids. It's a self protection thing and I totally understand that. But by doing so they can also end up idolizing the idea of children and families even more so. I know that for me it was helpful to meet with my friends who have kids and hear about the fact that their lives aren't so perfect (sick kids, lack of sleep, even relationship conflicts brought on my having children) just to remind me that having kids isn't always this amazing happy after after. dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-39522453910423696182017-08-07T06:46:38.220+12:002017-08-07T06:46:38.220+12:00"we’re looking for and providing support that..."we’re looking for and providing support that we don’t get elsewhere in society." Yes. In fact, with this blog post you've once again given me the impetus to write a post that's been kicking around in the back of my head... Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.com