tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post4924320918023540081..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Ten examples showing why I believe infertility brings out the best in usMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-3982857569355206162015-02-16T11:00:10.878+13:002015-02-16T11:00:10.878+13:00So true. I do no find that many people are bitter ...So true. I do no find that many people are bitter and mean, but supportive and loving. If someone finally has a child, or adopts - there is support and love. And I've found #10 to be so so true for me. I think most people, after suffering infertility, get it. Get the ups and downs and want to give the compassion, love and support that they may have wanted to receive.nicoleciomekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126828010169796290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-71962107848627413272015-02-15T12:32:41.719+13:002015-02-15T12:32:41.719+13:00Maybe it's because of where I'm at in the ...Maybe it's because of where I'm at in the journey and don't have closure on things yet but I don't think infertility has made me a better person at all. I'm a more on edge person. The positive outlook can accomplish anything approach to life I had has been killed by infertility. It has made me more bitter towards others and severely damaged a lot of my most important personal relationships.<br /><br />But that's just me and could be just where I'm at in the journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-672108096482316012015-02-10T15:40:20.674+13:002015-02-10T15:40:20.674+13:00Buddhists say that even in the world of hell, ther...Buddhists say that even in the world of hell, there is potential for Buddahood. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-83277320188226223742015-02-10T13:16:18.795+13:002015-02-10T13:16:18.795+13:00Mali, you've described how I see things here, ...Mali, you've described how I see things here, too. Thanks for putting it into words.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-5763294562510203652015-02-08T22:18:25.370+13:002015-02-08T22:18:25.370+13:00Love this post, Mali. "This is often indicati...Love this post, Mali. "This is often indicative of where they are in their journey." Very true, very true. And I love what Savannah said about what demons that haunt people. Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-67792803171396747792015-02-07T07:46:24.994+13:002015-02-07T07:46:24.994+13:00Great post and great comments! Infertility defini...Great post and great comments! Infertility definitely shaped me into a more empathetic and compassionate person.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896931627340645963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-32634903758101740012015-02-06T08:06:30.889+13:002015-02-06T08:06:30.889+13:00Love this too. I think it's an important remi...Love this too. I think it's an important reminder that we have a choice; that we can choose to let it bring out our best instead of our worst. We can't control how we feel, but we can control how we act.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-74013592265555295582015-02-06T04:57:15.293+13:002015-02-06T04:57:15.293+13:00I have been on both sides of the scale of nice vs....I have been on both sides of the scale of nice vs. nasty. But its like you said at the beginning of your post, it was because of where I was on my journey. When we first learned we were infertile, I had a lot of anger and hatred, which I mostly took out on pregnant people. At that time in my journey, all I could see was that they were given what I was trying so hard for. But I think that is why its so important we not only seek our dreams of motherhood, but that we also seek peace of our circumstances. Since then, I've been able to do a 180 degree turn and I'm nothing like I used to be around pregnant people. So I guess infertility brings out the worst and the best in most people. Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64817553899619244472015-02-06T03:29:42.619+13:002015-02-06T03:29:42.619+13:00I love this post. And I absolutely agree. My story...I love this post. And I absolutely agree. My story was always lacking in the struggle and trauma of most and yet there were always so many women willing to hold my hand through troubles that were so dwarfed by their own. I was so incredibly moved by their support in both my times of sorrow and of joy. This community absolutely showed me what true empathy and compassion really are and gave me a renewed sense of what heroic (such a great word you chose) efforts the human heart is capable of. Noemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12792217151905218101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-74869991304586220382015-02-05T21:59:34.765+13:002015-02-05T21:59:34.765+13:00Don't know about what happened on Twitter. But...Don't know about what happened on Twitter. But for me personally both were true, infertility brought out both the best and the worst in me. I have been mean, angry, cold and jealous towards my partner because of his children from a previous relationship. And I have made some amazing connections both online and in person, being able to understand a shattered dream. (Maybe just as well I wasn't on Twitter back then)Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.com