tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post6564391692706962531..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Gifts of Infertility Series - #8 - Self-ConfidenceMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-61696923699032180112014-10-01T03:20:37.434+13:002014-10-01T03:20:37.434+13:00Oh, Mali, you have such a way with words. I felt s...Oh, Mali, you have such a way with words. I felt so empowered reading this post. :-) Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-66578276356670813002014-09-19T15:25:05.977+12:002014-09-19T15:25:05.977+12:00"But it is also the result of new experiences..."But it is also the result of new experiences, of being thrust into a situation I didn't choose, and of being forced to work through this to find a place of peace." - that hits the nail on the head for me. So beautiful described. i have often thought about my increase in self confidence, but it's hard to describe how or why. But you did so perfectly (p.s. i know i'm commenting on these all out of order, but i just keep all new blog posts that i need to read open in my browser and slowly work through them :)nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-76098409339256711332014-09-05T23:59:55.747+12:002014-09-05T23:59:55.747+12:00"This lack of confidence was surprising to me..."This lack of confidence was surprising to me. If you’d asked me, I would have said I had never tied my self-worth or my identity as a woman to being able to have children. "<br />Thank you for putting this into words! I've always wondered about this, especially with intelligent and eloquent women. But I guess the instinct not to become a social outcast is a strong survival mechanism, if unconscious.<br />I might have told you about the reactions of some male colleagues when I told about my fertility problems: more than one (married) man offered to "help"!<br />That left little room to doubt my desirability or femininity. And hey, gave me a good laugh, still does. (and sadly confirms that some men don't always use their brain to think)<br />Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-39189101319544337362014-09-05T16:24:45.071+12:002014-09-05T16:24:45.071+12:00I like Grey's comment about scar tissue. And ...I like Grey's comment about scar tissue. And I think you're right that our confidence is built on that. Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64992388084704576282014-09-05T15:06:36.767+12:002014-09-05T15:06:36.767+12:00Grey once told me that scar tissue, though not nec...Grey once told me that scar tissue, though not necessarily pretty, is amazingly tough stuff. I like to believe that my new found self-confidence is built from scar tissue. Meaning it takes a lot to rock me now (still rockable, though). In a strange way, I have infertility and loss to thank for that, just like you.<br /><br />Thank you for this series, Mali. It's given me a lot to think about.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-69172797331175948842014-09-05T02:54:55.482+12:002014-09-05T02:54:55.482+12:00Once again your post has spoken directly to me. I...Once again your post has spoken directly to me. It's really reassuring to know that it does get better. I mean, logically, I know that it will get better, but in my heart it feels like it's going to hurt forever. Thank you! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.com