tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post7498215579671189806..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: If we are childless, what is our legacy?Malihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-18575250261664726822015-07-12T04:18:47.288+12:002015-07-12T04:18:47.288+12:00I love the questioning nature of this post. And, ...I love the questioning nature of this post. And, thank you for addressing some of the unsettled thoughts that have been floating around in my head! <br /><br />The idea that leaving an imprint on this world with something other than a child raises the bar is inspirational and lends some clarity to my current struggles. I think your point on our relationship to our egos needing to shift is spot on too. I'm in the throws of that, and honestly, it may take awhile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-32590441913487445032015-07-06T16:28:08.814+12:002015-07-06T16:28:08.814+12:00Thought provoking post and words. Really I think t...Thought provoking post and words. Really I think the true legacy of all people, not only those without children, is in their deeds and relationships with others. Obviously parents influence their children but I find it egotistical to consider one's child a "legacy." The child is his or her own person.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-60272388473983639792015-07-06T02:49:36.195+12:002015-07-06T02:49:36.195+12:00Just want to say THANK YOU for sharing my blog lin...Just want to say THANK YOU for sharing my blog link with Mel. :-)Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-50734751294210202702015-06-29T22:35:45.270+12:002015-06-29T22:35:45.270+12:00This: People read our words, and feel less alone. ...This: People read our words, and feel less alone. That isn’t a small thing. <br /><br />I stumbled across CNBC blogs a year ago this month and I immediately knew that I had found "my people." It took me a while to leave any comments and a bit longer to start my own blog, But I am so happy to have "people" and each of you have left a legacy in some way, shape, or form. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-73551734917470227612015-06-28T10:18:48.173+12:002015-06-28T10:18:48.173+12:00I love this. I love the idea of a legacy of though...I love this. I love the idea of a legacy of thoughts and deeds. I think that you have quite the legacy between your writing, your warm and wise reachout to people in pain, and your gorgeous photographs, but it's the impact you have on others that is so clear in your blogs that I think is amazing. And remembrance-worthy. I hope that I have this kind of impact with my students, and of course my future child through adoption, who won't inherit anything genetic from me but hopefully will inherit a lot of my spirit, my values, and at least appreciate the things we love and treasure in life. I love, love, love this post. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35785700162931104212015-06-28T02:16:50.057+12:002015-06-28T02:16:50.057+12:00This! " if– by the end of my life – it has in...This! " if– by the end of my life – it has influenced someone in a good way, someone who then might pass that on to someone else, who might repeat it to friends or relative..." Yes. <br /><br />Dear Mali: you have -- and continue to influence me. Great post. xoPamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-40766615475320906162015-06-26T19:04:47.529+12:002015-06-26T19:04:47.529+12:00Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I can't count an...Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I can't count anymore how many yeses I screamed out inside me when reading this post.<br /><br />I struggled with legacy sometime ago and a CNBC friend told me, "But Amel, YOU are your own legacy." The whole of myself. <br /><br />I agree on the ego bit and it's easier for me once I let go of it. I'm but a drop of water in the huge ocean of life, but I'm still a drop of water. <br /><br />Very true about the generational stuff, too. I never knew both grandparents (one died when I was very young, another one died when my dad was still at uni), so to me, they're like ghosts in the background. I know they're there, but I don't know them (I only know them from bits and pieces of stories). Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-36493179927511225932015-06-26T15:50:29.524+12:002015-06-26T15:50:29.524+12:00I thought you'd like this, being the genealogi...I thought you'd like this, being the genealogist you are. I loved that post of yours when I first read it, and I've just gone back to read it again. Such a nice post.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-56180030289320329602015-06-26T15:49:13.319+12:002015-06-26T15:49:13.319+12:00The "stuff" issue is always a big one. I...The "stuff" issue is always a big one. I wrote a bit about it here - http://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.co.nz/2015/03/who-will-inherit-my-things-when-i-have.html<br />Can't you just have your life insurance policy pay out go to your estate for distribution as per your Will? (I wrote a bit here - http://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.co.nz/2011/03/this-is-my-last-will-and-testament.html)Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-44583918084247269702015-06-26T08:39:46.018+12:002015-06-26T08:39:46.018+12:00I love this post, Mali. I don't think any of u...I love this post, Mali. I don't think any of us will ever know the true impact our lives have had on others. As a genealogist who won't have any direct descendants, I do like to think that part of my legacy is growing the family tree in a different direction -- adding to it through knowledge of previous generations. If none of my cousins' offspring seem to be interested, I figure I'll just leave my research & photos to a local genealogical society & perhaps another relative in the future will discover it and find it helpful or interesting. <br /><br />This post reminded me a bit of one I wrote last year: <br /><br />http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogspot.ca/2014/03/and-rest-in-unvisited-tombs.html<br /><br />I look forward to your post on "the next big thing" -- something about being childless/free that I've found irksome. I don't particularly feel the need to do something spectacular with my childless/free life, but I find that others sometimes seem to expect it of me. :p loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-3361166192222534532015-06-26T07:09:38.351+12:002015-06-26T07:09:38.351+12:00In my field of work 'legacy systems' are a...In my field of work 'legacy systems' are a burden.... I'm not one to puzzle over a family tree, or put that much meaning or significance on DNA. If 16 people away in your tree someone has the same thing X maybe that just means that 1 in 16 people has thing X?<br />O well, maybe I'm not sentimental/romantic enough to have feelings about leaving a legacy, maybe that is one reason I'm not married either. (and made the choices I did with infertility treatment)Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-88781705471557047042015-06-26T01:38:53.962+12:002015-06-26T01:38:53.962+12:00I've never let the gene pool thing bother me t...I've never let the gene pool thing bother me too much. Like you mentioned, I barely remember my great grandparents, and that is a stretch. I know, that even if I had children, my great, great grandchildren wouldn't remember me.<br />I agree on the legacy part. I just want to touch someones life for good. And I know I have. That gives me more pride than I first imagined it would. And it brought me so much joy that I try to continually look for more opportunities to help others.<br />My one hang up is, who do I leave my stuff to? But even then, most items are just materialist. If it all got sold off, I would be okay with that. The big items, like the scrapbooks I've made over the years. I hope someone will treasure them as much as I do. <br />I also think about my life insurance policy. My employer has asked me, a few times, to list a secondary beneficiary, in case my husband and I pass away at the same time. On one hand, I think, split it between the nephews. But I also would like for it to go towards something good. I have a few things in mind like a children's hospital or a scholarship fund. I just need to do the research and decide which option feels best to me.Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-15077194422723305562015-06-25T16:52:17.945+12:002015-06-25T16:52:17.945+12:00You did make a positive impact in my world.
Your w...You did make a positive impact in my world.<br />Your writing, your thoughts helped me to go through the hard years of infertility. <br />I will be forever grateful for that.<br />lots of love from sLOVEnia,<br />KlaraKlarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com