tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post8040094229962911454..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Reclaiming friendshipsMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-24645998818670806702015-11-12T08:31:48.482+13:002015-11-12T08:31:48.482+13:00This has begun to happen to me. It's really lo...This has begun to happen to me. It's really lovely, and I wish that I had read this post five years ago when it felt like all my friends had set sail to the island of children leaving me crying on the shore.Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10515040285870115973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-14538932171162030062015-11-11T14:21:49.135+13:002015-11-11T14:21:49.135+13:00I've found it difficult to make friends over t...I've found it difficult to make friends over the years... not having kids, I wasn't plugged into any of the neighbourhood/school networks... working & commuting, I didn't get to know our neighbours very well (and of course they were all busy with kids) -- so most of the people we hang out with tend to be dh's relatives, a few people I knew from before my marriage who also moved to Toronto, or people I met through work. Come to think of it, though, several of them are childless. ;) Of those with kids, many of the kids are now getting older, and the parents are starting to come out of the woodwork a bit again. So perhaps there is some hope! ;) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-8993562666305692982015-11-10T22:05:40.317+13:002015-11-10T22:05:40.317+13:00Loving this idea, though I try to balance it out b...Loving this idea, though I try to balance it out by saying that if it happens, it happens, but I won't have too high expectations anymore (because it has backfired on me). Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-21884644013727634542015-11-10T17:50:20.314+13:002015-11-10T17:50:20.314+13:00I love the idea of "reclaiming" a friend...I love the idea of "reclaiming" a friendship. There's something empowering about casting it in those terms. I agree with Cristy that my most valuable friends aren't the ones who see me as a parent, but who see me as a whole person.Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-55183719346975648662015-11-10T04:17:20.164+13:002015-11-10T04:17:20.164+13:00It may seem odd, but I feel that most of my friend...It may seem odd, but I feel that most of my friendship with those I knew before I was parenting are more valuable than most of those I've made solely because I am parenting. These friends have been with me through some gnarly stuff and because they see me more than just a caregiver. <br /><br />Too often, people push friendships to the wayside when one half isn't meeting similar life-goals. Yet it's so sad because those friendships are often lamented when they pass, especially when they often don't need to with a bit of care.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-61105716835296968432015-11-10T03:06:51.216+13:002015-11-10T03:06:51.216+13:00I love the idea that a paused friendship can alway...I love the idea that a paused friendship can always come back when the time is right. So true that in order to do so you have to have been sensitive with one another and not burnt the bridge.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03974191170965082852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-72799697274964421752015-11-10T01:43:53.032+13:002015-11-10T01:43:53.032+13:00I struggle with friendships too. Part of it is th...I struggle with friendships too. Part of it is that as an adult I've moved around good bit (three different states since I graduated from college at 22) and my friends have done the same, so there is distance and time zones to contend with. The rest of it is my age, meaning that most of my friends are going to be actively parenting for the next 10-15 years. But this is a good reminder that the pendulum may start to swing in the other direction at some point. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-57116662696473536822015-11-09T18:26:39.868+13:002015-11-09T18:26:39.868+13:00Lovely post!
I adore the lavender photo.... I jus...Lovely post! <br />I adore the lavender photo.... I just love lavender.<br />btw: only now did I discover flag counter. Slovenia represents 0,7 % of your visits :) Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-72019323750394224762015-11-09T18:24:27.505+13:002015-11-09T18:24:27.505+13:00I love this post, as I really struggle with friend...I love this post, as I really struggle with friendships. I have tried SO HARD to keep my friend who don't have kids (all by choice, as far as I know), but it's hard. A lot of them seem less able to find the time than I am! I hope that some day I can reclaim those friendships. Some day.Noemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12792217151905218101noreply@blogger.com