tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post8165624494950128018..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Bittersweet past and presentMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-91414670715239451972017-09-04T22:05:00.701+12:002017-09-04T22:05:00.701+12:00What the hell kind of a comment is that to make, a...What the hell kind of a comment is that to make, about miscarrying? I've never heard this actually come out of someone's mouth - she must have been very confident about her ability to conceive! I hope she didn't say that in full knowledge of your own difficulties - monster. Reminds me of when I told a couple of my best friends I had miscarried and one said 'That's good news - it means you can conceive' and the other said bluntly, 'I thought you were infertile?'. Sometimes mothers are clueless, it has to be said. https://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-15242945900612406282017-09-04T09:39:58.218+12:002017-09-04T09:39:58.218+12:00The piano got me too. We live about a three minut...The piano got me too. We live about a three minutes away from the high school that our children would have attended and around this time of year I can hear the marching band rehearsing in the distance. A subtle yet persistent echo of what should have been no doubt, it always pulls on my heart. Don't know if my children would have played instruments, but I played and still play the flute so I always wonder. <br /><br />I think it's not just hard feeling what we feel, but having to feel it amongst a group of people that are unaware and thus insensitive to the experiences we have. Sending you good thoughts as you regain your equilibrium (although I'm sure you already have). XOXOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-2344535300157841032017-08-30T08:51:29.151+12:002017-08-30T08:51:29.151+12:00"We've sadly had very little time with th..."We've sadly had very little time with them, as time with their grandparents has had to be their priority." You've reminded me about another childless online friend (from a non-ALI forum) who was recently looking forward to visiting with an adult niece, and was frustrated to find herself far down the list after grandparents & other uncles & aunts (who presumably had cousins for her to visit with too). On the one hand, as someone who is often doing the visiting with aging parents, I understand the dilemma of so many friends & relatives who want to see us too, in a limited amount of time... but as a childless auntie, I understand the desire to spend time and attention on on young nieces & nephews who often have other priorities and perhaps don't understand how much they mean to us and how much we look forward to seeing them. :( <br /><br />The SIL who made the crack about miscarriage deserves 20 lashes with a wet noodle, even if the remark was made years ago. Seriously??!! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-80845427313259604232017-08-27T13:29:24.583+12:002017-08-27T13:29:24.583+12:00Yes, what Klara and Jess said.
Hugs. Yes, what Klara and Jess said.<br /><br />Hugs. Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-32178732191710415472017-08-26T09:26:03.825+12:002017-08-26T09:26:03.825+12:00Ouch, that sounds like a bittersweet family gather...Ouch, that sounds like a bittersweet family gathering for sure, so many reminders of sad things. And that person! Who said the thing about not caring if they miscarry! What the heck is WRONG with people? Insensitive on the best day, utterly appalling in my mind. I'm glad you can regain equilibrium faster now, and that you can enjoy the kids, who aren't aware of the turmoil. The piano pain especially got to me. Sending hugs to you.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-73429540142069992402017-08-23T06:01:46.763+12:002017-08-23T06:01:46.763+12:00I know the bittersweet feeling too.
(I can't ...I know the bittersweet feeling too.<br /><br />(I can't believe how silly & heartless some people are... I don't care if I misscary..... she was talking about her child!)Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com