tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post8857144611988534295..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Myth: People who live childfree have carefree livesMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-21761034755439428462014-05-23T20:00:10.346+12:002014-05-23T20:00:10.346+12:00First, two wrongs don't make a right, which is...First, two wrongs don't make a right, which is why we've chosen to stay. And I only "whine" as you say here, away from family, because I am not so cruel as to complain to two very elderly and vulnerable people. There's no childless martyr card. Our role here is not because we are childless, but because we are decent. But the point of the post is to note that just because we are childless doesn't mean we are carefree.<br /><br />Finally, you're choosing to hide behind anonymity. Brave choice.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-16653034675604065392014-05-23T13:04:17.553+12:002014-05-23T13:04:17.553+12:00You know that rearing children isn't keeping y...You know that rearing children isn't keeping your partner's siblings from helping, that is an excuse they use to avoid caring for elderly parents. No one is forcing you and your husband to help either; you are choosing to play the childless martyr card and later whine about it while maintaining that you will never tell your in-laws "the truth." <br /><br />No, I'm not a troll or afraid to create boundaries with people in my life (regardless of their age or relation to me). You are disingenuous and I am sure the in-laws sense that.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-42925467209085621262011-05-04T04:02:15.653+12:002011-05-04T04:02:15.653+12:00Thank you...
Yep, my brother is overseas and when ...Thank you...<br />Yep, my brother is overseas and when our mother had breast cancer asked me if I could stop by her more often. I'm only 15 minutes away you see, and he has his family...<br />And the resentment sometimes surfaces with regards to the stepkids. Not my kids, but still they take almost all the vacation days my partner has (multiple weeks) and there are just a few days left for the two of us. And most of the time they make me feel MORE childless...Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-15044972994510798032011-05-03T08:24:30.319+12:002011-05-03T08:24:30.319+12:00As always, beautifully balanced, wonderfully state...As always, beautifully balanced, wonderfully stated. Thank you.Indigo Buntinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11387698096732697805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-43488995446943903782011-04-29T15:51:36.764+12:002011-04-29T15:51:36.764+12:00You're not alone in this... when my mother alm...You're not alone in this... when my mother almost died of an infectious disease, I had to suspend my infertility treatments in order to take care of her. My sister was too busy with her two kids, and afraid of contagion to boot.Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02557128777623361772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-15248816386668915202011-04-28T10:51:08.065+12:002011-04-28T10:51:08.065+12:00Very well written. You bring up very good points!Very well written. You bring up very good points!BBHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13896241302116974983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-22355650621452140462011-04-28T02:36:57.225+12:002011-04-28T02:36:57.225+12:00You know, since I became infertile, I have become ...You know, since I became infertile, I have become much more obsessed with who will be around when I am old. And it does make you more compassionate to older people. My partner is making sure to spend more time with his 93 year old grandpa who lives 10 hours away. I feel more compassion for my grandma, who now deceased, lost her husband at only 71. I think more about my parents, still only in the early 60s, and the help they will need in another 10-20 years. It changes your perspective and it is really sad how once people go on to have their own families can sort of forget about their parents and let all the burden fall onto others. i can imagine why you feel resentful and would like to be appreciated. <br /><br />Thanks again for finding my blog. I am going to follow yours now as I really appreciate your honesty and straight forwardness.Nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.com