tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post896272545748148270..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Shying away from exposureMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-10254334686433489702014-10-20T11:58:52.017+13:002014-10-20T11:58:52.017+13:00I posted something on FB. I don't do it often ...I posted something on FB. I don't do it often -- I'm not that brave -- but on occasions like October 15th I feel a little more courageous. ;) I do often "like" stuff on FB related to pg loss & grief, and I realize that it may show up in my friends' news feeds. But it's not quite as direct as "sharing." ;) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-30156243901117532862014-10-17T04:40:41.343+13:002014-10-17T04:40:41.343+13:00I thought of several of my friends yesterday and w...I thought of several of my friends yesterday and wanted to show them love on FB, but I know some of them are very private about it. So I posted a generic message and hoped they all understood it was for them. As I look at my friends list I think, wow, so many of them have suffered from infertility. But then I realized, we understand each other and I try to surround myself with those who get it. Its so much easier to relate to them. Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-41693262830231145472014-10-17T03:12:40.442+13:002014-10-17T03:12:40.442+13:00This is interesting to reflect on. Like you, I nee...This is interesting to reflect on. Like you, I need to have control about my thoughts and what I share. But I think another thing is when I share my opinions on infertility, people see the twins and hence come to the conclusion that there was a "happy ending." So in a way, it's more safe. With your case, there's already an element that makes people uncomfortable. Hence there's a tendency (and a very wrong one) to assume your opinions come from a place of bitterness, even if they are shared by te community.<br /><br />I guess what I'm saying is I get it.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-51080030814681221952014-10-17T00:57:39.237+13:002014-10-17T00:57:39.237+13:00I think I understand where you are coming from. I...I think I understand where you are coming from. I'm glad you contributed your voice, even if it was under a pseudonym. People need to hear your voice. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-50439903991830806482014-10-16T21:25:18.144+13:002014-10-16T21:25:18.144+13:00Understand completely about being exposed, especia...Understand completely about being exposed, especially in a small place. I live in a small village here and I can totally relate to what you're saying. Words can spread like a wildfire here (in both good and bad ways), so it's important to choose wisely (like what you're doing). <br /><br />But anyway, I'm sending you warm thoughts and (((HUGS))) for your losses, Mali (though I know your real name, but I feel like I've known you as Mali, so it's kinda hard to switch he he...). Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com