tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post1909170459266676966..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Life, and its pricesMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-9045852198994456982013-04-18T01:39:44.241+12:002013-04-18T01:39:44.241+12:00I've also heard a similar story about a grandp...I've also heard a similar story about a grandpa in Indo from a friend of mine. This grandpa is my friend's neighbour and he lives with his daughter and son and a teenage granddaughter (the daughter's daughter). Unfortunately the daughter has had mental problems after the marriage failed and the son has had mental problems since a younger age, I suppose. The son is more docile, so he's no harm to society, but the daughter can be really aggressive if she hasn't taken her medication. The problem is that sometimes she has to go without med because the grandpa isn't rich (there's no good social support system in Indo). One time this daughter tries to hit my friend for no particular reason than eye contact.<br /><br />The grandpa has had to deal with the neighbours many times (apologizing for the daughter's behaviour) and I just can't imagine how tough he has it going for him...as well as for the young granddaughter. If the grandpa passes away, the granddaughter will have to deal with her mother and uncle? I just hope when the time comes she'll get some help. <br /><br />But you're right...when it comes to life, sometimes the prices some people have to pay seem very steep indeed...Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-62270454234749592702013-04-14T15:12:04.615+12:002013-04-14T15:12:04.615+12:00I know you do what you have to do... but yes, that...I know you do what you have to do... but yes, that must be so hard -- and what's going to happen to those children when the parents are gone?? <br /><br />Before dh, in university, I went out with a guy who had two younger brothers... and a younger sister who had severe cerebral palsy and lived in a care home. He had mentioned to me that he had a sister but didn't talk much about her... and then one night he said to me, "Can I tell you about my sister?" & he cried as he did. I later met one of his brother's girlfriends, and she asked me if he had talked about the sister. She said, "I think it really weighs on him, because he knows he'll be responsible for her after his parents are gone." loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-80447407737979204202013-04-14T06:58:35.614+12:002013-04-14T06:58:35.614+12:00Reading this made ame a puddle of tears.
I hope t...Reading this made ame a puddle of tears. <br />I hope that someone can help them out...and she has one less thing to worry about for now.The Barrenesshttp://www.the-barreness.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-67037440197251508432013-04-14T03:47:49.417+12:002013-04-14T03:47:49.417+12:00Several years ago, there was a story here in the S...Several years ago, there was a story here in the States about a woman who was looking for someone to "adopt" her fifty-something year old son. She was getting old and had several health conditions and wanted to make sure there was someone who would watch out for him when she no longer could. It broke my heart. I have a few friends, who, once they became mothers, became very concerned about the plight of children. I've always been concerned about older adults who might not have the care and support they need. IrisDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14120842144868527846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-9031051638449974132013-04-13T18:06:19.550+12:002013-04-13T18:06:19.550+12:00I googled it and found a photo of two autistic bro...I googled it and found a photo of two autistic brothers. They have a beautiful smile! <br /><br />It must be sad for their mother. How afraid must she be of getting older, ill, dying & leaving her two sons. <br /><br />Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-85971721993943019782013-04-13T17:05:25.140+12:002013-04-13T17:05:25.140+12:00Oh, I saw the advert for that and couldn't bri...Oh, I saw the advert for that and couldn't bring myself to watch it. Those are the kinds of people that really need community and government support, rather than all of these useless blighters breeding on the DPB. Since I didn't watch it I don't know, but I hope that there is some family there (cousins etc) that can help these men when/if their parents die. My great aunt had an intellectually impaired daughter, and while it was a bit of a relief when her daughter died before she did, it was still too late for Great Aunt to have a free life of her own. That is relief in the sense that the worry of who would take care of daughter if Great Aunt died was over, not relief that she died, if that makes sense.<br /><br />And I have to admit, I see some of these people who have children with awful, awful problems, and I think, yes, I would rather be childless than have to go through what they go through. Not that these people would ever regret having their children, I'm sure.Michahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02585008845765873770noreply@blogger.com