tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post2109651795031499913..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Over-sharing about over-sharingMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-86404393470513603332012-03-09T05:22:15.563+13:002012-03-09T05:22:15.563+13:00Here from Promptly...
How is it that this article...Here from Promptly...<br /><br />How is it that this article is directed only at women who have experienced miscarriages? I distinctly remember making people uncomfortable with my slightly off behavior after my dad died. My focus was on that, so my responses didn't often make sense. But no one tried to make me feel bad about it. Is it because this sort of grief can't be shared as easily?<br /><br />Fortunately for me, I find others' discomfort with emotion amusing, because they are so often attention seekers themselves.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-42018929406941637762012-03-08T10:11:44.380+13:002012-03-08T10:11:44.380+13:00You are so right, Mali. Why shouldn't my grief...You are so right, Mali. Why shouldn't my grief trump your discomfort? I think with any other kind of loss, there is at least some polite lip service given to the idea of comforting the bereaved and at least tolerating their grief to a certain point, if not fully accepting the need for it. <br /><br />We don't overshare. Most of us hold back -- way back -- & even though pregnancy loss is beginning to be talked about more openly, we still have a LONG way to go. This article is certainly evidence of that. :p <br /><br />I can't wait to read part 2 of your reaction to this article. : )loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-7190392466071566232012-03-08T09:07:28.488+13:002012-03-08T09:07:28.488+13:00I read the article, which made me sad and angry at...I read the article, which made me sad and angry at the same time. Thank you for your post, beautifully written as ever.Illanarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05203774916178621215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-63716567737013301902012-03-08T04:49:22.470+13:002012-03-08T04:49:22.470+13:00I've seen this attitude a few times on other w...I've seen this attitude a few times on other websites like Mumsnet - the worst example of which was a poster bitching about a 'friend' being attention seeking by putting photos of her stillborn baby's funeral on Facebook.<br /><br />I think it's a good thing that people want to talk more about pregnancy loss. It's such a social convention not too that inevitably there's going to be a few articles like this along the way - but I think things are changing and will continue to.Sushigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15692271287979209910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-60674064933811003512012-03-08T03:44:21.335+13:002012-03-08T03:44:21.335+13:00Wow. I am not going to read that article as it wil...Wow. I am not going to read that article as it will make me angry. "Your pain causes me pain, so shut up." a very selfish attitude to have.<br />Pregnancy loss is still a taboo subject, I for one, did not want to opely discuss mine. I did want to talk about it, just not to real friends. Mainly because I didn't want to make them uncomfortable nor did I want their pity. <br /><br />I didn't feel I had lost a baby as it was early and I bled before I got the positive result (I therefore feared the worst from the start). I did greive for- the loss of a chance at getting pregnant, the fear that it would never happen and if it did that it could be another ectopic. That was how I felt. Everyone feels differently and should be allowed to feel however the hell they want and discuss it with whomever they want.<br /><br />Maybe if we were all more open about it, people would learn what to say (or rather, what not to say).knitting vixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09889190301578115051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-27934060860874223222012-03-07T22:16:51.589+13:002012-03-07T22:16:51.589+13:00I haven't read the article, but disenfranchise...I haven't read the article, but disenfranchised grief has many aspects and people who've never gone through it will probably be confused about how devastating it can be. <br /><br />I mean, before IF, I could probably say all the wrong things to someone experiencing IF or RPL. IF has changed my perspective and my world in ways that none others could. <br /><br />One close friend of mine asked, "Tell me how you want us (her and my other close friends 'coz it's written in a group email) to support you" when I was telling them about my worst IF moments and they didn't know what to do/say. <br /><br />Yeah, if we're all open to grief and we're prepared to learn to know how to comfort one another, it'd be easier to grieve and recover. You're so right about that...Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com