tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3142086258103775091..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Unselfish, unconditional loveMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-52217351013823184222015-09-11T00:59:50.965+12:002015-09-11T00:59:50.965+12:00The love and care you show your mother/in-laws is ...The love and care you show your mother/in-laws is beautiful. I've never understood why people without children are viewed as "selfish" - some of the most wonderful, considerate people I know (both online and IRL) do not have children. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-39156360812799977482015-09-10T09:15:17.944+12:002015-09-10T09:15:17.944+12:00Yep! Bless you for doing this for your mother &am...Yep! Bless you for doing this for your mother & inlaws. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-89979454254617249322015-09-09T15:53:34.633+12:002015-09-09T15:53:34.633+12:00Loving and caring oozes out here on these pages. T...Loving and caring oozes out here on these pages. Thank you for sharing. Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-10685209338207376682015-09-09T13:21:01.789+12:002015-09-09T13:21:01.789+12:00It makes me sad to think that anyone would find yo...It makes me sad to think that anyone would find you selfish. I know people *with* kids who are (sadly, unfortunately for their children) selfish ... having or not having your own children doesn't make that difference. Love, and a sense of duty and responsibility and generosity of spirit do. <3Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-43861148833530421642015-09-09T07:32:38.981+12:002015-09-09T07:32:38.981+12:00What a thoughtful thing to do, bring them dinner a...What a thoughtful thing to do, bring them dinner and make two chocolate cakes. It's a tough transition to be the caretaker of parents. I'm so glad you are able to be there for them.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04018529086830109794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-46087367910861176292015-09-08T16:59:00.514+12:002015-09-08T16:59:00.514+12:00As you well know when parents get older, you becom...As you well know when parents get older, you become their caretaker and their guardian. It's a tough job, but one borne out love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-74039714836441831182015-09-08T15:36:06.237+12:002015-09-08T15:36:06.237+12:00There are so many ways to connect, to nurture, to ...There are so many ways to connect, to nurture, to give, as you so amply demonstrate.<br /><br />And, by the way, chocolate cake on the floor makes me wanna cry!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64973465161196498992015-09-08T14:36:05.510+12:002015-09-08T14:36:05.510+12:00So, so true! Glad you were able to be there for th...So, so true! Glad you were able to be there for them. Stephanie (Travelcraft Journal)http://www.travelcraftjournal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-36081201222320643382015-09-08T12:42:34.707+12:002015-09-08T12:42:34.707+12:00You are definitely so much more than a taxi driver...You are definitely so much more than a taxi driver! There is beauty in every day thoughtfulness. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-54052034634940460992015-09-08T11:04:31.034+12:002015-09-08T11:04:31.034+12:00Absolutely, and I don't think there was ever a...Absolutely, and I don't think there was ever a doubt in anyone's mind who reads you and pays attention. Even before it was stated, I knew that.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-32317583465150741442015-09-08T10:19:07.741+12:002015-09-08T10:19:07.741+12:00This is such a beautiful message and very true I t...This is such a beautiful message and very true I think. So often people do seem to make the wide sweeping assumption that childless couples are just plain selfish. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-46371022172507911422015-09-08T09:14:51.485+12:002015-09-08T09:14:51.485+12:00People need to stop judging what they don't kn...People need to stop judging what they don't know. I don't understand when people say that choosing not to have children is selfish, especially when they don't know just how much of a choice it was. Either way, there are so many ways to nurture. You did a beautiful thing because you are a beautiful soul. Parenting is one way to give, but it is not the only way, not by far. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-63808868570822529492015-09-08T09:13:27.466+12:002015-09-08T09:13:27.466+12:00I didn't read this and think of taxi driver an...I didn't read this and think of taxi driver and baker only. I read how loving and care you are.JustHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-14058665528929513992015-09-08T06:44:35.945+12:002015-09-08T06:44:35.945+12:00After reading your blog for years I know that ther...After reading your blog for years I know that there is so much more than meals/driving. I am glad you spent some precious time with your parents.<br />Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-31309687015241604112015-09-08T04:28:18.855+12:002015-09-08T04:28:18.855+12:00two hour drive. and back again. in that time you c...two hour drive. and back again. in that time you could cross my entire country! Today I went for coffee with a store bought cake with my childless aunt and uncle. They live close by so not much effort on my side, but part of the family and I do believe they have their own part in bringing up Suzy or legacy to impart on (to?) her, just as they were there for me growing up.Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-794821778212168662015-09-07T23:53:50.750+12:002015-09-07T23:53:50.750+12:00Isn't it sad that in this world those who tut ...Isn't it sad that in this world those who tut their own horn are praised, while so many others who do live their lives decently, and are kind and thoughtful, just go unnoticed? I know so many people who do so much for others, but never ask for praise, and I might go a bit out of my way to point this out to everyone else, because they deserve this praise, even though they say they don't want it. <br />Whoever thinks that bringing meals and offer transportation is all you do does not deserve you wasting your time to specify there is more. 😉 You are very thoughtful, and very kind. And even if you do not have children, that is not what defines you, since you are important, and you do matter, my kiwi friend! 😘 <br />I should comment more, I know, to show my appreciation, but even if I don't, do know that I read every post of yours. ☺️ ( God, could I be even less coherent?! I am so not an early morning person. I need more sleep😩)Minahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148000699685037451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-29737598169297536132015-09-07T23:14:59.086+12:002015-09-07T23:14:59.086+12:00I don't know why we judge people...to have chi...I don't know why we judge people...to have children or not is a personal choice...And it's nice to read that you are taking care of your parents and parents-in-law, not many people do that these days..Yes, not even people who have 'children' and are apparently not selfish!Nabanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958307546734785806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-91056413135183004672015-09-07T22:38:08.847+12:002015-09-07T22:38:08.847+12:00LOVE this post, Mali. I'm actually on the reve...LOVE this post, Mali. I'm actually on the reverse, though (with my parents, I mean). My brother and family live with my parents.Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64169372239522317732015-09-07T21:54:31.073+12:002015-09-07T21:54:31.073+12:00I've just realised that this reads as if all I...I've just realised that this reads as if all I do is bring meals and act as taxi driver. There's so much more that I'm not sharing to protect their privacy.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-19314919230193882192015-09-07T18:25:58.494+12:002015-09-07T18:25:58.494+12:00Very good point made. You don't have to be a ...Very good point made. You don't have to be a parent to love someone so wholly.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-49911623937501228442015-09-07T16:25:16.645+12:002015-09-07T16:25:16.645+12:00Isn't it funny how those who are seen as being...Isn't it funny how those who are seen as being selfish for not having children are usually the ones who are caring for aging loved ones? Glad you were able to spend some precious time with your family,Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com