tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3149104937736074148..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Misunderstandings: Pandemic and No Kids versionMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-53505468203438302372021-02-21T10:42:43.036+13:002021-02-21T10:42:43.036+13:00What surprised me was that it took me quite a whil...What surprised me was that it took me quite a while to figure out that what I thought I had said was different to what they had thought I meant! lolMalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-84846265411677538992021-02-20T13:06:12.832+13:002021-02-20T13:06:12.832+13:00I saw that post and the comments. I understood wha...I saw that post and the comments. I understood what you meant, but obviously some people did not...! I think you handled the situation quite graciously, all things considered! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-11448375965695223312021-02-19T06:03:39.955+13:002021-02-19T06:03:39.955+13:00Well...that was unexpected, that people would find...Well...that was unexpected, that people would find fault with that simple statement. I like what other commenters have said about understanding what you intended, and how people's filters sometimes get in the way.<br /><br />Know what I honor? That instead of getting irritated (or maybe in addition to), you got reflective. You went inside yourself and observed, non-judgmentally. This is praiseworthy, for such mindfulness is what can heal what ails us.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-65981491545758151122021-02-17T20:29:06.799+13:002021-02-17T20:29:06.799+13:00Dear Mali, I deleted my FB account a year ago, so ...Dear Mali, I deleted my FB account a year ago, so I haven't seen your post. But if I Had seen your post with the sentence "I have my city back", I would have understood it completely. <br /><br />It would have made me happy... knowing that someone (on the opposite side of the world) is back to enjoying life. Which gives hope to the rest of us... <br /><br />So - you don't have to try to do better. You don't have to bite your tongue. You are perfect just as you are! <br /><br />I have better solution - just "unfriend" people who wrote you unkind comments. <br /><br />sending lots of love from the northern hemisphere,<br /><br />KlaraKlarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-8523696871823964672021-02-16T17:25:50.482+13:002021-02-16T17:25:50.482+13:00You are too kind! You are too kind! Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-5089695786611457502021-02-16T17:25:09.393+13:002021-02-16T17:25:09.393+13:00I agree that stress and restrictions (the woman wh...I agree that stress and restrictions (the woman who reacted badly is a front line officer) will definitely make people testier. It's why it didn't really bother me. It was just interesting to think through the process.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-22692210715884852682021-02-16T15:22:03.737+13:002021-02-16T15:22:03.737+13:00Jeezum. So easy to be misunderstood on social medi...Jeezum. So easy to be misunderstood on social media. And so easy for people to see a post and filter it through their own perception/worldview. I'm sorry you caught flak. I'm glad you are free, and I'm glad you're been relatively free of COVID complications in NZ. Maybe people are so wrapped up in restrictions and pandemic stress that is easy to be testier than normal. Also, WTF? So interested in whatever would be behind lying about not having children on a support forum. Bizarre. <br /><br />Thankful for your thoughtfulness and empathy. Blowing raspberries at those who don't appreciate your intent, because I did not promise myself to do better, ha.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-40601152146310663122021-02-16T10:05:39.483+13:002021-02-16T10:05:39.483+13:00WOW!
I am sorry you had that experience and feedba...WOW!<br />I am sorry you had that experience and feedback. Clearly I ought to have gone back and read more comments after I made mine celebrating your more normal life which was due to your country's choice of how to respond to the virus. But then, actually, NO. It was better I did not read those who failed to understand and whose reactions were so different from my own.<br />Just know, for anyone who was jealous/angry/painful in response to what is possible for you to do, know there are others who take much joy and find mental health support and hope in hearing of a life continuing in a more normal fashion. I am locked in. Isolated. Fearful of close encounters with other people. Worried when I need to grocery shop, and only doing that once in 3 weeks. And, fully aware I, during normal school holidays and weekends, avoid all stores and many locations where children and working parents need to be BECAUSE they cannot be there during off-hours/middle-of-the-week-days and I can. AND, I remember when that wasn't an option due to my employment. <br />My country did not have to chosen to lie about the virus, did not have to chosen to hold super spreaders, did not have to have chosen to open bars and restaurants rather than schools, did not have to rejected masks and public health measures for one person's political ego and rejection of science. But that was the path that administration made and encouraged and fostered. New Zealand made a different choice. I am not a New Zealander but I am so very proud of your country's choice AND YOU DID NOT CROW ABOUT IT AT ALL. You only spoke/wrote about living a normal life without major fear of dying as a result.<br />Stay safe, stay aware, stay smart, stay lucky. And, know you are deeply celebrated, appreciated, and given credit for holding others afloat in a terrible time. THANK YOU. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com