tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3213174098785546037..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Navigating through griefMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-16800899212065097162017-11-27T17:27:19.139+13:002017-11-27T17:27:19.139+13:00This comment has been removed by the author.harada57https://www.blogger.com/profile/06015023155124017905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-15212825128267724032017-10-25T14:42:41.631+13:002017-10-25T14:42:41.631+13:00I love this so much. I love the idea of rolling wi...I love this so much. I love the idea of rolling with the emotions -- and making sure that you FEEL them, because if you try to squelch the grief, it will come out in other ways, none of them pleasant. Society doesn't like it when you're not okay, when you're not "thinking positively," when you're sitting in the crap, but it's so necessary. I agree with loribeth, grief isn't linear and it is a unique experience for everyone. There's no one way to do it and no one has all the answers. You have to honor what's right for you -- and I think you said all that! <br /><br />I wanted to share this, as it seems so appropriate to this post, shared by a friend who lost her mom recently but I think it applies to all sorts of grief: http://beautythings.info/2017/09/24/when-asked-for-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-grief-this-old-man-gave-the-most-incredible-reply/ Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-73082632153079484142017-10-25T12:48:38.653+13:002017-10-25T12:48:38.653+13:00The only thing I would add (which is implied in yo...The only thing I would add (which is implied in your post) is that grief has no timetable, and everyone's is different. I've often told people that when it comes to grieving the end of your dreams of children, you're not going to change the hopes and dreams of an entire lifetime overnight, or in a matter of days or weeks... it's going to take time. Lots of time, probably more time than you think. But yes, there does come a point when suddenly you realize you're starting to feel better. :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-23341312971821257562017-10-25T12:35:26.376+13:002017-10-25T12:35:26.376+13:00Beautifully and perfectly said, Mali. And so so t...Beautifully and perfectly said, Mali. And so so true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-2670099492660119632017-10-25T08:49:43.921+13:002017-10-25T08:49:43.921+13:00Yes, it's a journey... I am so happy that some...Yes, it's a journey... I am so happy that someone reached out to you because I know you would extend your loving, supportive heart toward them but allow them to feel their own way through too. You are so beautiful xxxBamberlambhttp://inconceivable.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-53099574204466230912017-10-25T03:26:36.754+13:002017-10-25T03:26:36.754+13:00Different Shores said it all beautifully. Grief si...Different Shores said it all beautifully. Grief signals a transition: honoring what has been lost but also forcing us to face what it's working. Its painful and going through it is scary as hell. Yet so much can come from it.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-16634222065110398872017-10-24T23:07:31.701+13:002017-10-24T23:07:31.701+13:00I saw a comment recently under an article about ch...I saw a comment recently under an article about childlessness after failed IVF; I wish I'd noted it. It said something like 'Take stock of your life. Change your job if you don't like it. Move house if you want to. Look at what you enjoy and do more of it. Re-train if you want to. Use all available resources for your grief or depression. Get a dog if you've always wanted one. Work less. Now's the time to do what you want to do..". It kind of appealed to me as a pragmatic person who likes to move on fairly quickly. I wish I had it as it was worded better than I have written it. Sometimes those comment sections have pearls amongst all the tosspot comments! I agree with rolling with the emotions - ride the tides, and one day you just feel better, without knowing how it happened...Different Shoreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01552043510975777003noreply@blogger.com