tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post3414414689847978311..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Delayed gratification is over-rated**Malihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-66504435493445920762013-07-05T04:52:25.350+12:002013-07-05T04:52:25.350+12:00Sorry that your husband lost his job, what a healt...Sorry that your husband lost his job, what a healthy outlook you have on it! That's the way to be. Being in the moment is so important in life. I too have had my health issues that reminded me of the shortness of life and led me to make changes before they were financially ideal. But, it all keeps working out. I think people let fear keep them in this "one day..." mentality or scurrying around for a new job instantly because they are used to routine and change is frightening. Good on you for being able to embrace that and balance planning with the moment. nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-80626019965636924332013-05-03T08:19:03.527+12:002013-05-03T08:19:03.527+12:00I am sorry that your husband is being made redunda...I am sorry that your husband is being made redundant, but I really admire your "make lemonade" attitude.<br /><br />I'm another who leans towards instant gratification, even though I was brought up not to give in to it. But for years (since my bff died) I've been calling it "seizing the day" and that makes it more acceptable (to my own mind!)Illanarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05203774916178621215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-56106757404569724512013-04-29T19:22:10.829+12:002013-04-29T19:22:10.829+12:00Ooooh all intrigued now. I love your perspective. ...Ooooh all intrigued now. I love your perspective. I never really thought of delaying gratification from thsi angle before, but another conversation I had this week has made me think about the 'how long is too long' (completely unrelated matters to any of this).<br /><br />I agree with TorthĂșil, or where I *think* they are coming from - that it depends on the 'cost' (not necessarily financial) or implications of the need for instant gratification - ie how 'conscious' it is.Stinkyhttp://www.beyondtheparentheses.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-67647331365852378122013-04-22T08:46:20.674+12:002013-04-22T08:46:20.674+12:00I love this post; it's a great reminder that ...I love this post; it's a great reminder that nothing is given, especially these days. I'm afraid I've absorbed my share of that Protestant work ethic guilt... dh has gone over & over the numbers and says we can retire in less than three years, when I'm 55. I don't want to have to work any longer than I really need to, but at the same time, I worry about winding up as a bag lady. I have some very long-lived relatives on my side; it's quite possible that if I retire at 55 I could still live for another 30 or 40 years. <br /><br />That said, I could be hit by a bus tomorrow. And I've waited for that damned marshmallow long enough (lol -- what a great line, thank you!!). <br /><br />I'm sorry to hear about your dh's job... it seems like no job is secure these days. :p But I'm looking forward to the big reveal of whatever it is that you're planning. ;) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-25473364264550058762013-04-22T06:43:05.169+12:002013-04-22T06:43:05.169+12:00This past week my brother and sister-in-law have b...This past week my brother and sister-in-law have been talking about retirement. My sister plans on retiring at around 55. My brother's a bit older, but will be probably retiring around the same time (they have kids, the youngest of which will be out of college in 2 years). I told them I have no plans to retire. I don't. I said, if I can, I'll keel over while lecturing, and give my students something to remember. People usually count having more money and retiring early as one of the benefits of not having kids. Well, not so in my case... I managed to go back to school at 35 for a PhD... that took way too long to complete, took out student loans, and have still to find a full time position. That, along with infertility, led to years of anxiety and sleeplessness. Till this year. I'm embracing the now! The way I see it, I have already traveled more than most people I know, I've gone to school to pursue a field I like, I enjoy teaching (though not the pay for adjuncts... hopefully this will only be temporary), I have found a renewed passion for reading, gardening and cooking... what would I do when retired, that I'm not doing now, or haven't done already, except not work. I've done that, too, and I prefer some level of activity, seeing other people, getting out of the house. So, as long as I'm healthy... I hope to continue doing everything I'm doing now till I keel over in front of that class and traumatize everybody else. You go ahead an embrace the now... As you so aptly (as usual) stated, you can't always count on life to unravel as you expect it to. IrisDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14120842144868527846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35775156143937157482013-04-21T17:45:14.538+12:002013-04-21T17:45:14.538+12:00I'm sorry about your husband's work situat...I'm sorry about your husband's work situation but I think it's awesome that you are embracing the unknown with gusto and not fear. I can't wait to hear what you're planning on doing!Esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375150088333673843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-20901408422330588862013-04-21T05:51:15.827+12:002013-04-21T05:51:15.827+12:00I agree you can't put everything off. And nob...I agree you can't put everything off. And nobody knows what the future will bring, so it's important to act now. Of course, sometimes priorities have to be set. I really want to do another international trip, but with the spectre of IVF hovering on the horizon, and hubby (hopefully) going to grad school in the fall, I'm making my plans a little more conservative. However, I think it would be a mistake to not do *anything* fun or *any* trips because of the other plans. <br /><br />As far as indulgence goes, my line is that it's OK as long as it doesn't cause a whole bunch of extra problems for myself or somebody else. I think if people are making a burden of themselves by indulging, then it's too much. But responsible adults making the choice to have fun....go for ittorthĂșilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-81864454695218602682013-04-20T17:55:18.321+12:002013-04-20T17:55:18.321+12:00dear Mali,
I love love your sentence: "presen...dear Mali,<br />I love love your sentence: "present is here and now and needs to be lived". I couldn't agree more. <br /><br />I am sorry about your husband being made redundant. And I agree - attitude Let's make lemonade is perfect. <br /><br />Last year I wrote about my beloved Wolf, the master of living in a moment: http://thenext15000days.blogspot.com/2012/02/master-of-living-in-moment-meet-wolf.html <br /><br />I still think the same - I still have so much to learn from him! <br /><br />And - I am looking forward to your plans being revealed.<br /><br />lots of love from sLOVEnia! Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-8242787293607400782013-04-20T10:10:35.568+12:002013-04-20T10:10:35.568+12:00"We are now more comfortable with the present..."We are now more comfortable with the present than the future."<br /><br />So very well said. There's nothing I can add, so I'll just thank you for this reminder and look forward to hearing what you do with your next few months.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11562773887208347158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-81535343285128758732013-04-19T20:41:57.113+12:002013-04-19T20:41:57.113+12:00Sorry about your husband's situation. LOVE thi...Sorry about your husband's situation. LOVE this beautiful post. I think moving to Finland AND infertility have helped me A LOT in enjoying the present MUCH more, because in the past I'd always been a planner (born as one and raised as one - loved planning WAYYYY ahead of time so much so that a close friend once said that this aspect in myself was scary for her). <br />Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-51508739437363990972013-04-19T18:58:55.932+12:002013-04-19T18:58:55.932+12:00I'm sorry that your husband has been made redu...I'm sorry that your husband has been made redundant, but I love your attitude. Taking the time and using it as an opportunity for something different sounds like a nice sensible approach, rather than a rushed panic'd must find a job, any job, one that could lead to a wrong decision. I wish you both the best of luck.Michahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02585008845765873770noreply@blogger.com