tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post4193195608214679547..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Confidence - finding the right balanceMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-13450810829514709422012-06-28T07:44:30.139+12:002012-06-28T07:44:30.139+12:00I have been trying to build back my self confidenc...I have been trying to build back my self confidence this last year. I realized that it was something about myself I lost (along with other things) during our TTC years. I’m working on it. I can totally relate to the pep talks, I have to give myself them all the time!This Path In Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02631355662172309547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-52710218334437463852012-06-25T04:15:15.202+12:002012-06-25T04:15:15.202+12:00I hear you. Yep, infertility pretty much did a nu...I hear you. Yep, infertility pretty much did a number on my ego, too. And my acting career took a nosedive around the same time as my first IVF failed. It's not attractive to have no self confidence in your 40s. I only wish I had had a successful career during that time. It would have given me an anchor to hold onto.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-18554598925796447992012-06-24T12:45:40.915+12:002012-06-24T12:45:40.915+12:00Boy, can I relate -- I think I could have written ...Boy, can I relate -- I think I could have written this post. I took a bit of a fall last week & wound up with a sore tailbone ; ) -- but I am so aware that it could have been so much worse. I no longer take good health for granted. And I no longer feel sure of myself at work. I just hope to hang on for another few years until I can retire. In some ways, I'm much more confident than i used to be, but not so much in others.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-71940645838095752492012-06-23T10:01:06.316+12:002012-06-23T10:01:06.316+12:00What a great post. I have had these same feelings...What a great post. I have had these same feelings before. I'm fairly successful in my job (why do I say "fairly"???) and I've told my husband, "I wonder if they'll figure out I'm faking it." Because that's how I feel most of the time. Like I'm faking all this, and one day people will find out that I'm really not all that! You have beautiful words to describe these feelings...Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-62870057034325333262012-06-21T00:52:27.681+12:002012-06-21T00:52:27.681+12:00I think most of us can sometimes get stuck in a ru...I think most of us can sometimes get stuck in a rut, or be unwilling to take a risk - although I definitely became more risk averse during treatment and losses and don't know if I'll ever entirely undo that. I read somewhere that people who take risks are happier than those that don't. Which is something I remind myself of when I'm about to do something that scares me!Sushigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15692271287979209910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-44650917998932817122012-06-20T14:26:16.489+12:002012-06-20T14:26:16.489+12:00I have always been a very confident person who had...I have always been a very confident person who had dips during hard periods of transition. But, I went through a huge loss in confidence after my cancer diagnosis then hysterectomy. I still find my confidence returning... it was really hard to lose that, I felt like a different person.<br /><br />These experiences definitely have such a deep emotional impact that our confidence can be affected. I can see why you've felt this impact in other areas of your life... it runs deep. But, I have a feel you aren't too scared to try... sometimes, these things just take time.nicoleciomekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126828010169796290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-73548012966811181682012-06-20T04:04:07.843+12:002012-06-20T04:04:07.843+12:00This post reminds me of The Serenity Prayer:
&quo...This post reminds me of The Serenity Prayer:<br /><br />"Lord, grant me serenity to accept the things I can't change<br />Courage to change the things I can change<br />And wisdom to know the difference."Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35994265405425816642012-06-20T02:22:04.745+12:002012-06-20T02:22:04.745+12:00ahhh, the comfort zone! And the (not) stepping out...ahhh, the comfort zone! And the (not) stepping out of it. I think it was a NZ library, probably Takapuna where I found this little self help book: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.<br />Yes, getting out of the comfort zone is scary. but can be so worthwhile. We know we can't be confident before we have the success, but the confidence will grow when we step in the right direction. <br />(My DE adventure is waaaaay out of my comfort zone, but as long as every step of the way I felt I still wanted it I didn't let the fear stop me)<br /><br />And your remark of the big M made me smile. Being hit with the precursor-M at age 35, the cause of my infertility, I don't think it can scare me anymore. (mhm, hear my youthful confidence ;-) ! o well I'll enjoy that while it lasts.... <br />Good luck trying new things!Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.com