tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post5260949480276244874..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Healing and my PersonalityMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-27162268539076588652017-06-11T19:39:02.861+12:002017-06-11T19:39:02.861+12:00Hi there, I am a bit late to this post but it insp...Hi there, I am a bit late to this post but it inspired me to write something. I am not sure where I'm at with my fertility journey. I just know that I have felt a dearth of stories on infertility that end with - <br />"so we didn't ever have kids and we're ok..." so many fertility stories seem to end in... "and then, finally, we had the baby". I obviously do not know whether it will work out for me. So I can't say I am reflecting on this from the position of "healed", but I guess this is a reflection on my personality and the aspects of it that impact on my coping with infertility<br />- I am pretty laid back and don't particularly make life plans. I just flow with it. I think this is why it took me 7 years of trying naturally before I even thought even think to go to a fertility specialist!<br />- (I feel kind of stupid at this point for being so laid back!) <br />- I have always assumed that I'd be a mum one day, and a really good one. <br />- I really don't think I ask for much, so when I actually really want something I expect that it will work for me. Rude shock when it doesn't.<br />- I am grateful for the fact that I had a mum who said to me that she loved motherhood but assured me that I would be ok if I did not have kids. So I have always believed that not having kids is ok.<br />- I do things my own way and I think as a result people don't ask me too many annoying questions about how I live my life or make any assumptions that I will do things in a conventional way. Well maybe they do but if so, I don't notice or take it to heart.<br />- Like Mali I do not believe "things happen for a reason"... but... I do think I *used* to have an idea that life was fair- e.g. that you try hard enough and you'll get what you want.... <br />- I'm very private<br />- I believe that things will work out somehow<br />- I can accept and cope with a lot <br />- I can be flexible<br />- I can allow myself to feel whatever I feel, somehow, I will bounce back.Inexplicably Missinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18207628747529142166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-63162731522764624002017-06-01T01:45:50.736+12:002017-06-01T01:45:50.736+12:00I like this. Seems I have some self reflecting to...I like this. Seems I have some self reflecting to do.......:-). Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-4821050979758916302017-05-29T03:48:09.757+12:002017-05-29T03:48:09.757+12:00What Cristy said.What Cristy said.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-86275132674195434802017-05-28T06:29:41.562+12:002017-05-28T06:29:41.562+12:00My list: :)
http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogs...My list: :) <br /><br />http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogspot.ca/2017/05/what-helped-what-didnt.htmlloribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-14131639543923342272017-05-27T13:12:00.708+12:002017-05-27T13:12:00.708+12:00Great list. I certainly believe that being a femin...Great list. I certainly believe that being a feminist helped me, in that I strongly believed, long before I had to deal with stillbirth & infertility, that I was more than my uterus, and that I did not NEED to be a mother to have a fulfilling life. I certainly wanted and expected to be a mother & I was devastated when that didn't work out -- but it was not the only thing I knew I wanted to do with my life. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-79357919835066782172017-05-23T12:53:43.052+12:002017-05-23T12:53:43.052+12:00That is so true and why one-size-fits-all advice f...That is so true and why one-size-fits-all advice falls flat. We each come into problem solving with a different set of strengths and weaknesses.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-86578938941164544992017-05-23T08:41:27.149+12:002017-05-23T08:41:27.149+12:00Good writing idea! I liked reading your list!! I w...Good writing idea! I liked reading your list!! I wrote my initial thoughts here: https://infertilephoenix.blogspot.com/2017/05/helpinghindering-our-healing.htmlInfertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-29893157558605907742017-05-23T08:36:26.368+12:002017-05-23T08:36:26.368+12:00This comment has been removed by the author.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-41608890740559606712017-05-23T00:35:58.361+12:002017-05-23T00:35:58.361+12:00We have similar lists. Though I had to unlearn the...We have similar lists. Though I had to unlearn the "things happen for a reason" mantraCristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com