tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post6024609512129292675..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: You won't always be sadMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-29377483540070389762018-04-28T12:56:36.181+12:002018-04-28T12:56:36.181+12:00This is so true -- although it's sometimes har...This is so true -- although it's sometimes hard for people to believe when the grief is raw & fresh. When we were facilitating our pregnancy loss support group, we learned that most people didn't realize just how far they'd come along -- until a new couple arrived at group, fresh in their own grief. I think a little part of me will always be sad, but as Jess said above, I don't feel like sadness predominates or defines me now -- there is room for joy and all the other emotions as well. :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-37289588936475480212018-04-25T16:17:43.537+12:002018-04-25T16:17:43.537+12:00I love your quote! And I am 100 % confirming it!...I love your quote! And I am 100 % confirming it! Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-80864851063912423882018-04-25T13:56:49.538+12:002018-04-25T13:56:49.538+12:00I love this -- I think that often we aren't co...I love this -- I think that often we aren't comfortable with sadness (our own or others') and feel the need to put on a happy face and "get over it." That causes so many problems though. I love the idea to be sad, but know that it won't last forever (the face-down-on-the-floor tile of sad at least), and the idea to be sad, but also have those other dimensions, to. To not let the sad totally define you after a bit. I needed the deep sadness that was like having all my goo out on my outside, but now I just visit that from time to time. It's such a personal thing, the sadness. But also such a relief to know it is survivable. Thank you for bringing that hope!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-9402474981333355992018-04-25T04:29:26.038+12:002018-04-25T04:29:26.038+12:00I love your change to the quote, NotMyLinesYet. I...I love your change to the quote, NotMyLinesYet. It is always amazing to me to see different perspectives, different ways of healing through grief and finding joy... I'm so glad that you are "other things, too." :) Brandi Lytlehttp://notsomommy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-33536472335365429082018-04-25T04:26:56.033+12:002018-04-25T04:26:56.033+12:00I truly love your take on my hubby's quote and...I truly love your take on my hubby's quote and the tweak you made to it. :) Lovely post, Mali.Brandi Lytlehttp://notsomommy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-40063423967178610702018-04-25T02:30:23.696+12:002018-04-25T02:30:23.696+12:00You and Cristy are very wise. I really like NotMyL...You and Cristy are very wise. I really like NotMyLines last sentence, too. <br /><br />I have begun to think of emotions like the element of water (flowing) rather than like earth (fixed). That has helped me open to the possibility of emotions moving through me and not staying stuck in me. This is why I really like the beautiful meme you offer here.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-36008022969698315692018-04-24T15:09:36.920+12:002018-04-24T15:09:36.920+12:00Pretty much, when I think of my two lost pregnanci...Pretty much, when I think of my two lost pregnancies, I transformed from being about to think of them with pain, to thinking about them with love. Not always. But mostly. I hope you get there.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-7239605707143592502018-04-24T15:08:40.285+12:002018-04-24T15:08:40.285+12:00After almost 15 years, I can say that most of the ...After almost 15 years, I can say that most of the time, the sadness has indeed gone for me. It might revisit, but it isn't a permanent companion. And I hope that gives hope.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35846717922564461632018-04-24T14:08:16.065+12:002018-04-24T14:08:16.065+12:00Yes. Sadness seems like it's something we need...Yes. Sadness seems like it's something we need to "have happen and then get over." Because of course you never want to be sad forever. But the way I see it, and from experience, that sadness never really goes away, but you find different ways of dealing with it. Risa Kerslakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11446679711343114478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-18785167545734690852018-04-24T12:46:57.539+12:002018-04-24T12:46:57.539+12:00Maybe I'm still way too close to my sadness, b...Maybe I'm still way too close to my sadness, but I have the feeling that for me, part of me will stay there forever. It's the little part that will always miss my girls, that will always be empty. The rest of me definitely isn't staying sad forever (I'm too full of snide and sarcastic to stay sad!), and that sad part doesn't have intense pain associated with it any longer, but it's still a part of me. I think I'm ok with that, too. So maybe for me, the saying goes "it's ok to be sad, as long as you can be other things, too."NotMyLinesYethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13341656344049375264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-68540673399492927662018-04-24T12:17:04.518+12:002018-04-24T12:17:04.518+12:00I like this a lot. It would've really comforte...I like this a lot. It would've really comforted me several years ago when I thought I was going to be sad forever. <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-63470057988896276142018-04-24T04:29:40.249+12:002018-04-24T04:29:40.249+12:00There's a fear many have about sadness. Hence ...There's a fear many have about sadness. Hence the push I've witnessed for people to move through it as fast as possible, moving on to joy. But I've learned, like you, that rushing sadness just prolongs it. Like sprinting after breaking your ankle. So I'm in agreement with you about being okay with sitting with sadness, knowing that its okay to feel this negative emotion as you heal from trauma.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com