tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post7537826009333000981..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Gifts of Infertility Series - #13 – Compassion and empathyMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-78926588385445088862014-10-01T00:19:53.730+13:002014-10-01T00:19:53.730+13:00Really love this post. I think infertility was the...Really love this post. I think infertility was the biggest shock of my life ('coz I naively thought that I'd be able to get pregnant easily like my mom and my bro's wife and 'coz I really thought it was the least selfish wish I'd ever had in my life). Infertility really shook my entire world, but I have gained new perspectives because of it in so many ways. Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-11555312747030529352014-09-29T03:19:53.827+13:002014-09-29T03:19:53.827+13:00I've never thought about using my experiences ...I've never thought about using my experiences as an infertile woman to better understand and help those around me. Simply put, grief is grief, regardless of the source, and I'm in a unique position to potentially understand and help others because of my grief. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-5395625749883753252014-09-28T14:42:19.688+13:002014-09-28T14:42:19.688+13:00I think,too, that it's important to practice e...I think,too, that it's important to practice empathy, and infertility and loss helped me to imagine, sometimes, where people are hurting even if they aren't conscious of the hurt themselves. But I also think that being able to imagine where someone came from or how they feel is different from forgiving them or condoning behavior that we know is wrong (in response to Valery's worry about her boss). As we practice empathy, we should also practice self-care ... something else I could be better at doing. Thank you for this post (and for stopping by to comment, which is, in itself, a practice of empathy)!Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-82128730949427264622014-09-27T15:11:26.389+12:002014-09-27T15:11:26.389+12:00I am far (FAR) from perfect, Valery, don't get...I am far (FAR) from perfect, Valery, don't get me wrong. But at least I'm a lot better than I was.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-77748488292939230522014-09-27T15:10:06.684+12:002014-09-27T15:10:06.684+12:00You make a very very good point. That we need to ...You make a very very good point. That we need to practise empathy daily - or as frequently as we can. That way it becomes easier.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-47794811330021685342014-09-27T07:22:59.178+12:002014-09-27T07:22:59.178+12:00These two gifts, when practiced, have helped me re...These two gifts, when practiced, have helped me reduce bitterness towards and about the world.<br />Empathy is worth practicing daily...it is very very rewarding.The Barrenesshttp://www.the-barreness.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-61828424890433787902014-09-26T19:58:29.105+12:002014-09-26T19:58:29.105+12:00So I better keep reading here!So I better keep reading here!Valeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-78090466132477847382014-09-26T19:58:05.638+12:002014-09-26T19:58:05.638+12:00Mhmmm, I still have loads of work to do in the emp...Mhmmm, I still have loads of work to do in the empathy department, currently my anger (about my boss) and hurt are completely blocking my ability to listen learn or understand, fuelling my judgement and assumptions.<br />Deep sigh. I thought I was doing so well, being there for a friend in need when other friends couldn't or wouldn't listen anymore. But it doesn't stretch to my professional lifeValeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10210187335704409247noreply@blogger.com