tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post7690233415727828864..comments2024-03-28T06:32:27.436+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Insensitivity goes two waysMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-64865874265280166352011-02-16T09:37:58.719+13:002011-02-16T09:37:58.719+13:00I've been reading this over the course of toda...I've been reading this over the course of today (trying to catch up), and I really appreciate this post. Reading along, insensitivity is a big theme, and it's made me think about "human nature" and what each individual may or may not be sensitive to. We all need to be more aware, we all need to try to not make assumptions. But we also can't be aware of everything in every moment, and it may take us a bit to learn about what we HAVEN'T been aware of before a certain moment. I would agree that going on holidays/having children aren't the same thing at all, but I think it's good that you consider how you as a frequent traveler might come across, whether others perceive you that way or not.<br /><br />Fantastic post. Fantastic blog. I'm still trying to catch up and am deliberately not commenting on every single post...Indigo Buntinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11387698096732697805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-35313252322573940702011-02-16T03:18:43.881+13:002011-02-16T03:18:43.881+13:00My goodness how words stay with us. I know I did g...My goodness how words stay with us. I know I did go on to have children, but after my miscarriage, before I had children, my mother said to me, "It's not like it would have been a baby worth having" (her opinion was that miscarriages happen for a reason, and in my case, that was probably the truth but STILL). You just don't say things like that.Bridgetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12843150280542615265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-65521845288006552622011-01-24T20:44:27.435+13:002011-01-24T20:44:27.435+13:00No comparison what so ever.
You return from holid...No comparison what so ever.<br /><br />You return from holidays and you're still infertile. They return from holidays and they still have their children.<br /><br />Holidays are fleeting moments of happiness. Children are moments of happiness that last a lifetime.<br /><br />I actually think it's rather insulting to try and compare going on holidays to having children - I'd never set foot out of my STREET again if it meant I could have a child that would be mine for life - I'm not sure parents would give their children up in order to GO on a holiday.<br /><br />[not having a go at you, just saying it's like comparing apples with oranges]<br /><br />~x~<br /><br />p.s. You have a new follower!~stinkb0mb~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13933191141338188027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-1553179650494152932011-01-21T11:52:39.393+13:002011-01-21T11:52:39.393+13:00I'm in a similiar place at the moment. A and ...I'm in a similiar place at the moment. A and I have just come back from a week away but I didn't tell a close friend we were going and I am wary of telling him where we have been because he has no money for foreign holidays and I know he gets envious when he hears about mine. <br />On the other hand, he has an awesome son and I would give up all my holidays abroad in a heartbeat if I could be a parent.<br />It's a balancing act, on both sides.Illanarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05203774916178621215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-9385559206633639912011-01-20T16:04:10.610+13:002011-01-20T16:04:10.610+13:00Well, the fact is that just about every one in lif...Well, the fact is that just about every one in life has some sorrow. I've a cousin who had a child when she was very young and that child committed suicide at age 12. I can't imagine the pain. She was blessed with the "mommy moments" but now they are gone. When she had the child i was so envious. Someone else i know with a daughter nearly 2 and another one on the way speaks of fatherhood in glowing terms, and yes, it hurts me to hear it. (We lost our last one when they were pregnant with their first.) But they also have the exhaustion and frustration. They do have disappointments in their lives, too, just different from the ones i have. <br /><br />We are "mentoring" the children of a family in difficult times. We get to spend precious time with those kids, having fun, while mama and daddy are struggling to make ends meet and pay the rent. They get to be called mama and daddy, but they also have the pain of not knowing if they can put food on the table. We are able to use a little of our surplus to give the kids a fun time. <br /><br />My sis is mama of 6. We had one of her girls with us for 10 days this summer. My sis expressed envy that we would get to spend time with her daughter one on one. I was rather hurt that she kept telling me, "She's such a neat kid! You're so lucky to spend this time with her." What about the "neat aunt"? My sister has this child every day, but she is envious that i get 10 days with the kid alone? I can understand it on one hand, but on the other i think she's just clueless. <br /><br />I guess it comes down to we all have hard things and i guess they can't be compared. I think i have it the worst (most of the time) that i was never able to be called "mama." But there are worse things. I try to be sensitive to others on some issues (not talking about the great bonus my hubby got, for instance, to the family that is struggling). But the fact is, i think we all hurt others unintentionally, from time to time.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-2592703595391386562011-01-20T15:57:16.043+13:002011-01-20T15:57:16.043+13:00The whole time reading this, what is said in your ...The whole time reading this, what is said in your last paragraph went through my mind. I understand the thought, but again, they have that lovely full family with children and now or soon grandchildren to enjoy daily. Childless and infertilite couples only have small moments, a few days randomly through the year to fill that daily void with get-aways or full events. The two don't compare; not to me but again, maybe I am bias in that I have struggled with conceiving too...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com