tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post8461002775958953513..comments2024-03-29T09:31:53.769+13:00Comments on No Kidding in NZ: Don't dwellMalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-56344908676961794512012-03-10T12:22:09.040+13:002012-03-10T12:22:09.040+13:00Yes. Yes to everything. Yes.Yes. Yes to everything. Yes.msfitzitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5725106142359702200.post-44545375338103507572012-03-08T22:46:16.209+13:002012-03-08T22:46:16.209+13:00I've read the article now. Not sure what I hav...I've read the article now. Not sure what I have to say about the article, though. <br /><br />But anyway, I agree with you that being able to share my IF grief with other people also alleviates the pain that my hubby went through. I can imagine his feeling helpless when he, in his grief, held me tightly in his arms when I cried my eyes out due to my own grief. I needed others to listen to me and understand me and support me during my tough IF moments and in a way, I also didn't want to burden hubby too much, 'coz he also had to go through his own grief process. <br /><br />All in all, though, I agree with you that being able to be open normalises our grief. In the beginning of our IF journey, I felt alienated and even when I shared my darkest feelings to my closest friends, they were confused 'coz they had never felt that way before. I had to read dozens and hundreds of IF blogs to convince myself that what I felt was valid and I wasn't "overfeeling" or something like that. However, I'm thankful that nowadays there are so many IF blogs out there that "overshare" 'coz they make me feel normal. :-)))<br /><br />Feeling normal helped me in accepting what I felt and then learning how to deal with them instead of denying their existence or repressing them or something like that.Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com