Monday, 6 June 2016

Being honest about jealousy

Infertility bloggers are amongst the most honest people I know – maybe they are the most honest. They’ve had to deal with some difficult emotions, have had to face the fact they can’t do (easily, or at all) what others just take for granted, and they’ve had to face their demons. One of those demons we talk about regularly is that of jealousy, as we beat ourselves up for envying others, though so often what we are really feeling is sadness that we can’t experience what comes to others so easily.

This weekend, I confess that I am jealous - not of happy families or parents, but of other No Kidding bloggers. You see, a group of our esteemed colleagues got together this weekend, meeting up in person after getting to know each other online through the written word ("getting to know each other inside out" to quote my friend Sarah).

I wished I could have gone, though Vancouver is a long way to go for a weekend! I am very happy for the ones who are there, and I am hopeful another such gathering might occur some other time and some other place (New Zealand anyone?), when I can attend.

In the meantime, though, I confess that I am just plain and simply jealous!

12 comments:

  1. me too! Vancouver is also a long way from London (maybe not quite as far) & I would have loved to be there.

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  2. Yes to every word of this! The timing or money (both thanks to buying a house) didn't work out for me this time, but I so hope there is a next time too, and I hope that you and Lesley and everybody else who couldn't make it this time will be able to go too!

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  3. So glad all of you are getting together! Though bummed some of you had to miss this first gathering. May there be more soon!

    And yes about the jealousy. It's such a difficult emotion because it is tied up also with other feelings. Sadness, angry, rejection, feeling left out to name a few. Like with grief, the best way of addressing it is to meet the person where they are. No justifying or excuses.

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  4. Sounds very nice. This could be just the start of meet-ups around the world.

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  5. I'm jealous too. I suppose if I had really, really pushed myself, I could have made it -- it's certainly not as far from here as it is from NZ ;) -- but we've had so much on the go lately (with more to come in the next few weeks), I just couldn't see myself making the trip right now. I hope the stars align for me the next time a get-together is organized -- and that you will be able to be there too! :)

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  6. Dang! I've had the same jealous, but for different groups of online friends who got to meet in RL. Hope you are able to attend one near you at some point.

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  7. Were they able to loop you in with a Skype call? It sounded like a great get-together.

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  8. I wish I was in Vancouver too!

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  9. Sounds like a wonderful event. Maybe next time.

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  10. Truly you were there -- as were all who have walked beside those who gathered in person in Vancouver. We felt you. We honored you, and we are definitely talking about another gathering. I'm very keen on going to the Southern Hemisphere since we started in the Northern Hemisphere. Are you volunteering to organize :-) ?

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    1. Of course I am! Do you think anyone would come? The rest of the world are a little scared of long flights!!

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    2. Summer in the northern hemisphere=winter in the southern hemisphere=cheaper travel! :) I'd do my darndest to come! The flight would be long, but there are ways to entertain myself. Sleeping pills, for example.

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