Monday, 27 April 2015

#MicroblogMondays: Change the way you think



That saying, I think, sums up the blogging world of those of us who have no kids not-by-choice. By blogging about the positives as well as the negatives, by talking about what helped us, by changing the way we think and look at the rest of our lives, we show that our lives are good. And most importantly, we show that it is possible to change the way you think. 

In the midst of grief and disappointment, you think you will never live happily without children, that you will always feel grief-stricken and left out. You don’t realise that you can and will change the way you think. You can do this consciously, first by simply recognising detrimental thought patterns, and then by pushing them away. It happens faster this way. But still, it will happen subconsciously, over time, as our psyches recognise that to survive, we need to appreciate what we have.

9 comments:

  1. Brilliant post! I couldn't agree more.
    wishing you a lovely week!

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  2. I guess this sentiment is true for a whole range of contexts. Though I have to say, by staying part of this conversation on infertility and loss and showing the joyful *and* difficult realities of an alternative outcome, you are doing an amazing service for all of us. It's brave and it's commendable!

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  3. This is a wonderful message and perfectly timed for me.

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  4. Perfect message. Life became so much easier when I realized I could still be happy despite being childless.

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  5. Beautiful message. I agree, it's a message that works within many contexts, but is perfect for those living a No Kidding life. I think maybe we forget that we do have the power to change our thinking and not let the messages we hear on the outside become internalized over our own power, our own belief that our lives are good and we can be happy with what we have.

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  6. Great message. I love the idea of appreciating what we have and focusing on that, instead of pining for something that might never be.

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  7. Very true! They say time heals, and I have noticed that certain emotions get less intense/more bearable over time.

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  8. Great post and good words to share. Thank you! Thank you for sharing it gets better in time. As someone once told me about grief, it is always with you. When it comes to the surface, pick it up, honor it and then let it go. Let it go again and again. It will get less and life will fill the space, even if it is not in the way you imagined.

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  9. Brilliant! Thank you for this much needed message.

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