We are in the midst of an election campaign here in New
Zealand. The relief of winning the Rugby
World Cup has been quickly replaced by the frustration of seeing political
pollution (candidates’ hoardings) everywhere we go, of listening to the
political pollution on the radio when I’m not quick enough to turn it off, and
of trying to avoid reading the political pollution on the Internet or in my
newspaper.
So far this year there hasn’t been too much of an emphasis
on family. Issues include the economy,
debt, asset sales, to name a few. To be frank, I’m not
paying that much attention, as I still feel bruised from previous years. You see, in previous years, family was the
most commonly used word in the political campaigns. And I understand that for most people their family is
their concern. But for those of us who
don’t have children – don’t have a family in the sense of the word that most
people identify with - this is simply another time of the year when we feel
marginalised, isolated, alone. It is
another time of the year when we are reminded that our worth, to society, is so
low that our only value is as a taxpayer.
It is another time of the year when we are ignored, swept aside, where - despite having a vote - we simply don't count.
What irks me is the use of the term "family" to refer only to nuclear family. I'm originally from Latin America. Growing up for me always meant extended family, uncles, aunts, cousins, as well as parents, grandparents and siblings. I have family. I have a nephew and a niece, aunts, an uncle, cousins, parents, a brother and a sister in law (through my brother), a brother in law and two sisters in law (through my husband), two nephews through marriage, parents and cousins in law (one of which is coming to stay with me for a week as part of her vacation). I do have family, family is not just my husband and myself, but a whole other grouping of people.
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