In this community, the topic of “who will want my things?” comes up frequently. Frankly, this issue arises when you have children too, as I wrote here, quoting my friend who implored people not to foist their possessions on descendants who might not share the same tastes or interests.
Still, we shouldn’t assume no-one will want our things. As we went through my mother’s treasured possessions, her three daughters divided up the possessions between us, finding that we each had memories of particular things, and that these were almost always different. We asked the granddaughters who were there to choose anything in particular they would like (and we chose for the absent granddaughter), and although initially they said there was nothing they wanted, they each found one or two things that they wanted to have, to remember their grandmother by. My cousin was there too, and she took items too, either for herself because she loved the items or the memories associated with them, or for the children of our other cousins. It was nice to think of these things – from my mother’s life but also from our grandmother and great-grandmother - being part of all their lives.
It surprised me in the end how little there was that was unwanted, to dispose of to the second-hand dealer, and although sending these possessions off was initially sad, I realised that I am happy to think that a stranger might pick up a piece that I remember from my childhood, fall in love with it, and take it home, ready to make new memories around it.