I should have known. After I wrote my last post, Mother's Day hit in earnest on FB. I've concluded that Mother's Day in the US is a much bigger deal than it is here in New Zealand. I'd managed to avoid any real build-up to the day, thanks to my T-Box that records all my favourite TV shows, and skips all the ads. We rarely watch live, so I missed almost every single Mother's Day ad there was. I read the newspaper, but I honestly can't remember reading anything there either. It was so unheralded here, that I forgot to send my mother a card. I rang her though, and I'd visited the week earlier, and taken her out to lunch etc, so I didn't feel too guilty.
But then M Day arrived in the US. A blogging friend (general blogs, not part of the ALI or IF community) blogged nicely about the women who had nurtured her in her life - some of them childless. I thanked her for the recognition that we all nurture. But after that - oh boy, the annoying FB status updates. A (male) friend I have known for over 30 years made a particularly exclusive post, and I almost responded to him. But he's about to become a grandfather, and so I guess he was overcome with the emotion towards the mother of his daughter, and his daughter. I couldn't bear to rain on his parade. Is that a missed education opportunity? Perhaps. But I really didn't want to do the sour grapes thing either.
It's a dilemma isn't it? What to say, when to say, and the biggest question of all, IF to say it. Perhaps there's no irony in the fact that the IF community has to grapple with the question of "if." What I have concluded however is that there is no right answer to that question.