One of the things I remember most about going through grief was not having the words to explain myself, or even to ask for help, and others around me not having the words to be able to help. In the interim, I remember how well touch helped – simple, uncomplicated touches on my arm or shoulder, or hugs. How touch said what words couldn’t; “I care” or “I’m listening” or simply “I’m here.”
It often makes me think of this song, a well known song from a New Zealand musical icon of the last 40+ years or so. His songs Loyal, Welcome Home, and Slice of Heaven are unofficial anthems, and played at the right times, can bring stiff-upper-lip Kiwis to tears. Dave Dobbyn became Sir Dave earlier this year. He deserved it!
But this song is darker, but perhaps more meaningful. It seems to express those times of grief, or stress, or depression, when we can't express ourselves, or say what we want to - or should - say. Know that if
you feel this way, you’re not alone. Many of us have been there. But it gets easier. And in the meantime, we're here.
Language by Dave Dobbyn
My hands are tied
Oh I could be a victim
When my tongue won't move
You have tied with your heartstrings
When I needed you most
I couldn't find the language
When I needed you more
I couldn't say a word
My hands truly tied
Yeah I know I'm a prisoner
When my tongue wouldn't move
You have tied with your heartstrings again
And when I needed you most
I couldn't find the language
When I needed you more
I couldn't say a word
When I needed you most
I couldn't find the language
When I needed you more
I couldn't say a word
One day a heap on the ground
Next day I'm so proud
Today I don't know, I don't know
Hey
Your hands are cold
That's why I try to contain you
Now my words are cursed
Ember from the ashes
One day a heap on the ground
Next day I'm so proud
Today, I haven't got a clue
Feels like a river of tears
Today I'm gonna dry these eyes
No
When I needed you more
Couldn't say a word
Couldn't say a word
Powerful song, thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteFor some reason I wasn't able to watch, but I found it on YouTube, and wow. So helpful to me for something I'm going through. Thank you <3.
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