26 April, 2021

What I want you to know

 ,,, about infertility and childlessness.

That's the hashtag for Resolve's National Infertility Awareness Week this year. I'm a little late, but better late than never, I think. This year, I posted on A Separate Life, as I feel my readers here know what I want you to know. Every week I blog about it. I've written blog projects on the issue, and made a small book, that let you know what I want you to know.

Summed up, it is that life is still good after infertility and childlessness. That you get through the loss and grief, and live a full, happy life. That our inability to have children (for whatever reason) is only a part of our lives, sometimes bigger than others, sometimes almost nonexistent. We are so much more than that. It gets better. I'm not kidding. That's what I want you to know.

Finally, this week is the second week of the April (end of first term) school holidays throughout New Zealand (and Australia). That time can be tough, with families out exploring the country and having a wonderful time. (Here's my survival guide to school holidays.) But next week ... Oh, next week we reclaim the shops and restaurants and roads and ferries and tourist spots, and secluded outdoor areas. Next week it's all for us! I can't wait.


  1. I'm at the point in my recovery/healing that my inability to have children is only a part of my life. It used to feel like the whole of my life. Thank you for all of your help and support along the way. <3

  2. This is one of those posts of yours that I bookmark to share with others who reach out to me when they think there's no possible way they will survive infertility and childlessness.

    I'm excited for you to reclaim the places next week :-)

  3. Dear Mali, what a beautiful picture!
    I agree: It does get better and I am grateful for that.
    Happy reclaiming everything next week :-)!

  4. Yes! It does get better, and you were one of the first people to show me that this possible future would not be sad sack, but instead be wonderful, and I could heal in an ongoing process but not be wrecked all the time. I love your book, and I love your photo! And go enjoy that post-school-holiday time.

  5. That's what I would want people to know too... thank you for expressing it so well! Hope you are enjoying your holiday! :)