After learning that I am not alone, I found friendship. This is the easy one to write, because it is the one I have written before. I started expressing my gratitude for the friendships I had gained out of loss and infertility over a decade ago. First came loss. I met and talked to and was advised by and, perhaps most importantly, grieved with some wonderful women on-line, after our ectopic pregnancies. Wise women, women with compassion, and women with wonderful humour, they helped me through the hardest times of my life. And I hope with all my heart that I helped them too. As one of these friends said, we got to know each other from the inside out; raw, hurting, with open wounds. Friendships that first developed on a message board, moved to more informal online chatting, and then blossomed in real life.
Some of my on-line friendships have lasted 12 years. We chat on-line regularly, even though our lives have changed. Most importantly, we know that whenever we need to get something off our chest, whenever we are going through something tough, the others will be there for us - and vice versa.
Some friendships, including my blogging friendships, the relationships I am building here, are more recent. The thing I have learned is that these friendships are real, whether we have met or not. I look forward to nurturing them for years to come.
Here’s a selection of posts where I have expressed my gratitude for the friendships that have come as a result of loss and infertility and a No Kidding life.
Finally, I thank you for your friendship, and for the friendships you develop with others in this community. They are important. And they are real.