22 August, 2014

Talk to me

I've had an idea.  If I'm honest, I didn't have the idea.  I am copying someone else.  Even before I made my first ICLW comment on a new blog, I read something that interested me.  My Life is About the Journey invites emails from individuals who genuinely seek advice on parts of her journey, to help them through similar experiences, to share the wisdom.  What a lovely idea, I thought.

The reason I keep this blog is twofold.  I like sorting out my own thoughts about a No Kidding life, and writing is one way to do that.  Having an outlet for my thoughts and frustrations, and knowing I have a place where I'm not alone, is my major motivation for keeping this blog, even all these years after my initial losses and my entry into a post-infertility No Kids life.  But the secondary reason is that, now I no longer volunteer at a loss/infertility website, I also wanted an outlet where my own experiences might help others.  I try to maintain an open, friendly and welcoming atmosphere here.  But still, blogs often create a relationship at a distance.  

So I have created another page with an invitation to email me, with questions, or suggestions for new posts, based on my own experience.  I might regret this!  I hope I don't get hit by spammers, or the "just adopt" brigade who have left some nasty comments on my blog in the past.  (The delete button works wonders!)  

But as the years pass, and I find it harder to find new topics for posts, I thought I might try it. After all, I want to remain relevant, not just for those who are at a similar stage of coming to terms with a life without children, but also for those who are dealing with loss, and might be facing the prospect, or for those who are newly entering a No Kidding Life after infertility or loss.

It's an experiment.  But I figure it's never too late to try new things.  


  1. This is really a good idea. Relationship at a distance. That's a lovely term. Through blogging I've met so many lovely people. :-) Hope you get to read emails written by genuine people, Mali. :-)

    Would you like to join me in a Google+ community? Some of them are familiar with your blog and I've shared some of your blog links before and they love it. They can relate to what you've written.

    I'm currently a member of two private communities: Ghost Orchid Women and On The Road. Both can only be viewed if you know the links (I think). Ghost Orchid Women is a general group to share childless-not-by-choice struggles, whereas On The Road is more of a writing/photography/creative group, though we end up discussing many things as well. Each week in On The Road we get a challenge and we can interpret it anyway we want to. But even without the challenge, you can post anything you want (writing/photo/links to tap into your creative sides, etc.). I must say both communities have been very dear to me (both are free communities). If you're interested, let me know via email and I'll get you in touch with the group owners. :-)

  2. I think that's a great idea! It's really nice to get support from someone whose been through it, especially as someone struggles with the thought of living child-free.

  3. I think my comment got eaten. I do love the idea -- being a human question box. We all know we can ask questions, BUT seeing that question box actually invites questions.

  4. Lovely idea. It's interesting trying to have a relationship with the public through blogging or any kind of creative expression. I think ultimately we all need and want to be acknowledged. There's that fine line between being vulnerable and opening yourself up to the world as a virtual shoulder to cry on knowing that there's a possibility of having someone stab you in the back. It's easier I think to be cruel or kind behind the safety of a computer screen. Good luck with your idea - I hope the nasty trolls stay away ;)

  5. Not only is it a great idea, but a wonderful thing for you to take on. I hope it's a huge success.