Last year, Mel wrote a post about our internal bad guys, the voices in our heads that stop us living our lives, tell us stories that aren’t true, and steal our efforts at happiness.
I think everyone has these bad guys – I remember an “ah ha” moment when I was in my late 20s/early 30s when I saw a businesswoman on a documentary talk about imposter syndrome. I believe that it is much more prevalent amongst women ... or perhaps we just talk about it more?
I do think though that infertility emboldens these internal bad guys, when they say some terrible things to us, and additionally, in those early months/years of a No Kidding Life, they can really go over the top. Sadly, they learn their best material from stereotypes in books, on television and movies, by listening to politicians and radio announcers, or even from our friends and family, and then they know just when to throw these statements back at us, usually at our weakest, most vulnerable moments.
I’ve managed to stand up to the ringleader, What If Wanda, and as I told her in no uncertain terms to
STFU shut her mouth, her
followers Fearful Freddie, Sensitive Sally and Behaving Bessie quietened as well.
Even though What If Wanda and her crew turn up again from time to time, they
are actually easy to stand up to in the end, because all I have to do is ask, “are
they speaking the truth?”
Now, if only I could get rid of Procrastinating Polly as easily!