Later this year, it will be 15 years since I learned I’d never
have children. I have learned a lot of lessons (see Friday’s post here
as an example), and have discovered, and now written about, at least 25 Gifts of Infertility and Childlessness. I would never have thought, back in 2003, that I’d be able to come
up with more than one or two gifts from my infertility and childlessness. I probably knew even then
that “travel” and “sleeping in” were always going to be advantages of a no
kidding life! But in the midst of grief and anger and denial, it was hard to
admit that there would ever be any gifts to this life.
Obviously, given that I’ve found 25 different issues to write about (and finally finished the series), there are many gifts of this life, of this journey
I’ve been going through. By recognising these gifts, I am not denying the
pain we’ve been through, or what we’ve lost, and I’m certainly not denying the
pain others might be going through today. I am merely being honest, looking
back at what I’ve learned, what I value, and what I am grateful for now.
See the complete list here.
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ReplyDeleteI love your list :) and I would agree with pretty much every single item on it. You're right, the gifts don't negate what we've been through. The good & the bad co-exist, side by side, and both deserve to be equally recognized.
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