I think I pressed Publish too soon on my last post. What I want to add now is the very important point that, when we’ve been hit with a major loss, surviving is a major accomplishment. It is no mean feat to just get through life, and to eventually find yourself and your relationship in a good place, even though all these things will be new and changed as a result too. Learning to be happy is not easy (certainly not at first), but it is possible, and indeed the most likely outcome for those of us without children. Living well, flourishing, when we didn’t get what we want requires energy and strength and honesty and compassion, and a myriad other reserves of strength and character that we don’t know we have until they’re called on.
So what I meant to say on my last
post was that simply being able to embrace this No Kidding life is, in fact, a
big thing. Our next big thing.