I will never have children. Saying that simple, honest statement, just to myself, was the first step to recovery. It seems simple now - inevitable even; after all, I had no choice but to say it.
But I have
seen those who can’t bring themselves to say it, even when there is no other
choice; those who struggle against this simple truth, and keep themselves hurting, stuck in limbo.
Saying it is painful, don't get me wrong. But
saying it frees us from the what-ifs and the maybe-I-shoulds, and allows us to
start looking forward. Saying it is a pre-requisite to healing.